When Passion Takes the Wheel & #SpreadTheKindness Link Up #43

Did you ever meet a person who is so driven by their passion that it moves you to tears? A person who speaks with so much conviction in their beliefs and exhibits so much intensity in their dedication to their mission that it just inspires you to be more driven in your own individual pursuits? I met a person like this last weekend at NEPA BlogCon in Scranton, Pennsylvania.  People like this are rare and when I have the great fortune of being in the presence of someone like this, I feel compelled to share it with the world. So today, I want to share a little bit about this person with you all.  But before I get to that, I want to share a little background information about what drives me forward with my blog.

*This is not a sponsored post. All thoughts and opinions are entirely my own.

One of the main driving forces behind my blog and my writing is to spread awareness about mental health and what I have learned through my mental health journey. Part of my extensive therapy in reaching a place of mental and emotional wellness has been fashion and style. It was a baby step that I forced myself to take very early on in my healing process. Many years ago, a wonderful counselor told me, “When you can’t control your insides, control your outsides. Eventually, it begins to reflect inward.”

So with that in mind, for a very dark decade of my life, I got up and got dressed. No matter how difficult that small task seemed, I forced myself to shower, put on make-up, style my hair, and create a complete outfit.  More often than not, the task overwhelmed and exhausted me to the point that I climbed right back into my bed fully dressed for the day. But it was this tiny little task, where I pretended that I was a functioning member of society, that eventually brought me to a place of full functioning. And now it has translated into this space where I can share with you my fashion as therapy, my musings on life, and what I have learned along the way. Since I did not take many photos from the blog conference itself, I am going to sprinkle this post with pictures of myself…simply because the fashion element of my blog goes hand in hand with the mission that drives me forward.

Now I want to introduce you all to this amazing man whom I had the honor of meeting last weekend…Mr. Lew Hastings. Lew was one of the speakers at NEPA BlogCon addressing the topic of why cultural content matters in the work that we do.  Addressing the conference in a soft spoken voice, he commanded the attention of the attendees with his quiet steadiness and his devotion to the North American indigenous culture and its people.

Lew Hastings, Founder of the Native Now Foundation and Host of the Red Road Radio Show

I was immediately drawn in by his soft temperament and his obvious passion for raising cultural awareness about Native American communities and reservations in our country. He is the founder of the Native Now Foundation which is a non-profit organization that focuses on providing a support system which compliments the trend in Indian Country in moving toward self sufficiency and economic viability.

Lew is also the host of The Red Road Radio Show which is a live broadcast worldwide with a goal of letting the world know that indigenous communities are still thriving and continue to be productive and critical contributors to our society.

After the conference had ended, I approached Lew with the intention of letting him know just how moved I was by the abundant and obvious dedication he exhibited for his work. And as we got deeper into conversation, sharing our personal stories, it quickly became apparent that although our forums and our audiences were so drastically different, we had one very powerful thing in common: a driving passion to reach people and help them in any way we can. When you tap into that kind of strength and determination in another person, a connection occurs which can make magical collaborations happen.

During our informal conversation, Lew and I briefly tossed around some ideas of how we can work together combining our distinct areas of knowledge with our similar passion for helping others. And now that I have had the chance to process it all and formulate more concise ideas, I just need to get in touch with him. So I ask you all, please stay tuned for more on where this path may lead…

Until then…have a look at your favorite posts from last week’s link up.

Deena of Shoes to Shiraz shared a fun, interesting, and inspiring post about the current happenings in her life right now. Check out her post What I’ve been wearing!

Deena of Shoes to Shiraz

Chrissy of Granola and Grace also shared a post keeping us updated about her life lately. I do love catching a glimpse into the everyday lives of my blogger friends. Check out her post Distressed Denim, Handbags & More!

Chrissy of Granola and Grace


If you would like more information about Lew Hastings and his work, you can follow along on Facebook at the Native Now Foundation and The Red Road Radio Show.  (*Photos of Lew and his logos were taken from their respective Facebook pages.)

Keeping passion and kindness alive on the edge,

Shelbee

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I am a 40 something Army wife and stay-at-home mother of 2 boys and 2 cats named Dave and Frankie. I have a passion for helping other women feel fabulous in the midst of this crazy, beautiful life.

86 Responses

  1. Sounds like a fantastic day Shelbee. And one of the good things about blogging is that you never know where it’s going to lead you to xx
    http://www.vanityandmestyle.com

  2. Shelbee you are so awesome! As I read this post that’s what kept coming back to me – You. Are. Awesome. Such an abundant source of positive energy and kindness, we need more of this!
    xo,
    Kellyann

    • Kellyann, thank you so much for this wonderful and validating comment! We do need more positive energy in the world and I feel like I have to do my small part in putting it out there! Thanks so much for stopping by. I hope you have the most fabulous week!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  3. Thanks for sharing this amazing man and your connection. So glad you went to this conference and got inspired! Love this denim dress by the way too. Thanks for the link up!

    https://www.kathrineeldridge.com

    • Kathrine, thank you so much for reading my posts! Blogger meet ups of any sort always inspire me in one way or another. And if I can give exposure to a different audience for the amazing people I meet along the way, then I am going to do just that! Have a fabulous week, my friend!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  4. Great blog post, and cute outfit, thanks for sharing and hosting the link-up too. Jacqui
    http://www.mummabstylish.com

  5. I think when you meet someone like that and have that kind of conversation, it changes you – even if for jut a short while. I love it when that kind of thing happens. I’m really curious to read more about your collaborations, Shelbee. It sounds like a truly moving process for both of you!
    Hugs from Portugal, my friend.
    Suzy xx
    http://www.suzyturner.com / http://www.yogadocious.com

    • Suzy, thank you so much for this lovely comment! Encounters like this really do move and change you…and I like that perspective “even if for just a short while”. Because it is those short term changes that lead to much bigger things in life. And I am so grateful to have a forum for sharing my experiences and hopefully reaching people on a much deeper level! As always, I appreciate all of your support, my friend! Thanks for stopping by and have the most fabulous week!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  6. I’m fairly new to your blog, so I had not heard your story, and I applaud your grit and determination. Thanks for sharing your passion today and for passing along Lew’s story as well. Blessings to you!

    • Michele, thank you so much for this wonderful comment! It was a long difficult road to get where I am today. I feel blessed to be here and to have a voice and a forum so I can share my story and help others. I appreciate your support! Have the most fabulous week, my friend!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  7. What a GORGEOUS way to wear over-the-knee boot trend! I love that you’ve combined it with a stylish dress that could go summer or spring! Well done, darling. Xo Jonet

  8. Hi Shelbee! Thanks you so much for sharing this post with us! I always love what you have to say and feel like I get to know you a little more with each post. I so admire your journey and the fact that you want to help others by sharing your story.

    • Suzanne, thank you so much for this wonderful comment! It is so nice to hear that people are reading what I write and acknowledging what I am trying to do in my little blog space. I cannot express enough gratitude for your continued support and validation! Thanks for stopping by and have a fabulous week.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  9. Those boots are killa! I love them!
    XO Ellen from Ask Away
    http://www.askawayblog.com

  10. You are always so impressive in who you meet and how you make things happen, Shelbee!!!
    Can’t wait to hear more!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • Jodie, thank you so much! I can’t wait to see what we can make happen! I am so grateful for all of your support, my friend. You always make me feel so validated! Have a fabulous day.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  11. First of all your outfit is amazing and I have similar things and am planning to use yours as my muse! Second, you are helping so many people with your posts, I hope you know that.

    Peace!
    Cheryl
    https://www.northwestmountainliving.com

    • Cheryl, thank you so very, very much! It is so validating to know that I am not writing to the wind! You are awesome, my friend. I am so grateful for your support and your always encouraging words!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  12. Those boots!!! absolutely gorgeous!!!! and that dress – looking tres autumn chic. Lew sounds like a wonderful soul – can’t wait to see what collaborations you will be working on!! <3

  13. Those OTK boots are so chic on you, are you wearing boot socks with them (I can’t tell!!)? I also love the fringe on the bottom hem of your dress! It really does help to get up and look your best each day if you’re in a crummy period of life!!

    Carrie
    curlycraftymom.com

    • Thank you, Carrie! I am wearing OTK socks that kept falling down! But they are black so it is really hard to see where the socks start and the boots end. Or where the boots start and the socks end? I swear by the motto “Get up. Dress up. Show up. And fake it ’til you make it!” I appreciate all of your support, my friend. Have the most fabulous week!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  14. Very nice. I will have to check out that radio show. You are doing a great job in your blogging and educating people. I can’t tell you how much blogging has help me in life, to be honest it is the only place that allows me to be creative on my own terms. Keep up the good work.

    Thanks for hosting and have a wonderful week.

    • Patrick, thank you so much for this very validating comment. It is so nice to hear that my writing is reaching people and helping them. It really does help me as well to share my story and have a creative outlet. And doing it on my own terms is so important…just as it is to you. You keep up the great work as well! Thank you for your continued support. I am ever so grateful!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  15. hi shelbee, back from my trip.I think it is great that you find inspiration in other people like Lew. it sounds like you have similar goals in reaching out and helping people. love your otk boots, btw!
    jess xx
    http://www.elegantlydressedandstylish.com

    • Jess, thanks so much for this lovely comment. I feel so fulfilled when other people inspire me and I just have to share it with the world when it happens! Thanks so much for your continuous support of my blog. It looks like you had an amazing trip to Asheville, my friend! The photos are so gorgeous.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  16. Such a neat story! I turned to use fashion as a creative outlet when I was bedridden with Lyme and couldn’t do anything else creative, so I understand what this means to you. It was very cool to read your meeting too. I’m excited to see what becomes of it.

    Mary
    https://www.themarycurator.com/

    • Mary, thank you so much for this thoughtful comment. I am so glad that you can relate to what I am talking about (although I am not glad that you had to be bedridden in order to relate). I am super excited to see where this goes as well and to share it with you all! Thanks for stopping by and being so supportive of my mission. Have a fabulous day.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  17. You look so gorgeous babe! I’m loving those OTK over that dress!

    Edwige | http://www.hypnozglam.com

  18. I’m really digging these boots, lady!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

  19. Your counselor was quite wise ! I will make note of that quote.

  20. I always love reading your posts! Such an inspiration and encouragement to others. I have watched someone close to me go through this as well. It has been a long journey, but having support and the right mindset helps so much. Thank you for spreading awareness!

    Liz
    http://www.lizzieinlace.com

    • Liz, thank you so much for this comment! It is so validating to know that I am able to reach people where I want to and that I can make a difference in the world. I am so grateful for your continued support of my blog. I hope that this person you speak of is doing well and making great strides toward mental wellness!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  21. You look awesome in your denim dress and boots! so cute! 🙂

  22. Great boots, very cute!

    xoxo Falasha
    Bite My Fashion
    Instagram| Bloglovin’| Facebook

  23. I can relate to this so much! I was blogging before my son to give a creative outlet, but after he was born I had PPD, blogging was one of my ways to help with my depression! I am glad blogging helps you so much!

    • Stephanie, thanks so much for commenting and sharing your experience with PPD. I am so glad that your blog space provided you with a therapeutic outlet to get you through that time. I think by focusing on something and giving it all of your attention, it can distract from the other issues enough to allow healing to occur. If we focus on the negative, it can spiral out of control on us very quickly. I really appreciate all of your support. Have a fabulous day, my friend.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  24. I really love those OTK boots! They’re so pretty and I love how you’re rocking them! Great post!

  25. Shelbee, you are just an amazing individual with so much to offer. Thanks for all that you are doing! – Amy
    http://stylingrannymama.com/

    • Amy, thank you so much for this amazing compliment! It is so validating to hear that my work is noticed and appreciated! I am so grateful for all of your support. Have the most fabulous day, my friend.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  26. I love when people follow their passion, it usually leads to success. Mental health is super important and yes a great outfit and a good hair+makeup day can make you feel better physically and mentally. What a cute dress and great styling. I can see this dress worn from teens to 50+ year olds. I’d wear it too. 😉

    P.S. Cannot wait for all our Holiday collabs. Will e-mail everyone soon, again.

    • Ada, thank you so much for this wonderful comment! Getting dressed and looking great really is key to feeling great…so I do it every single day! I am super excited for this giant collaboration, too! I need to get to work on my photos though. I hope you are having a fabulous week, my friend!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  27. Love that denim dress and your boots! You look amazing!

  28. What an inspiring post Shelbee! Everything that we really love to do must have some form of motivation. I love what you said about mental health and how you felt like you didn’t want to get dressed, but you did anyway. I believe it’s little things like you were doing that can help pull you out of the funk. I have a family member that suffers from some form of depression, and she has gained weight, doesn’t go out that much except at night and generally just doesn’t take care of herself. It’s been going on for about ten years as well, but we are all at a loss as to what we need to do for her. We’ve even taken her to a therapist, but she basically refused to participate and went to sleep. It’s very difficult. I hope you and Lew can create a great collaboration.

    • Julie, thank you so much for this thoughtful comment and for sharing your experience with a depressed family member. Depression really is a very ugly disease and it is so difficult to get someone out of it when are in the deepest, darkest places of hopelessness. They just see no point in any of it. Ultimately, it is up to them to want to fight and reach a place of good mental health in order to take the necessary steps seriously and to do the work. The work is hard and so it is a daunting and discouraging road when results are not immediate. AS family members, my advice would be to just keep loving her through it and showing her the reasons she is worthy of happiness. No matter how many times she rejects your efforts, as the healthy ones, you just have to keep reminding her that she is loved and she is wonderful and that there is light at the end of the darkness no matter how small the glimmer may be. I hope my words can help even if it is just a tiny bit!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  29. Such an inspiring post Shelbee! I’m so glad that you met such amazing person. I like how you felt like you didn’t want to get dressed, but you did. You are looking so stylish. I love your denim jumper and boots <3 Kisses <3
    http://www.rakhshanda-chamberofbeauty.com/

    • Rakhshanda, thank you so much for this lovely comment! Pushing through and taking baby steps until I created healthy habits was so important for my recovery! Little things really can make a huge difference. Thanks for stopping by. I hope you have a fabulous day!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  30. Thanks for the shout out, Shelbee!

  31. What a wonderful post Shelbee. I really appreciate you sharing your experience with mental illness. I, too, have had personal experience with depression and I totally understand your description of how hard it was to just get dressed. I love the quote, “When you can’t control your insides, control your outsides. Eventually, it begins to reflect inward.” So very true. Here’s mine, “Baby steps” Thank you for your link up! Oh, and I love your over the knee boots and denim dress, almost forgot to tell you!

    Cherie
    STYLE NUDGE
    http://www.stylenudge.com

    • Cherie, thank you so much for this insightful comment and for sharing your experience with me. People who have not experienced depression don’t really understand how difficult those baby steps can be to take. And what a victory it is each day when we are able to accomplish those small every day tasks. For me, it was about the repetition of the activities. And forcing the repetition until it became habit. And now the habits have become my life. And what a wonderful life it is on the other side of that darkness! Thank you also for the lovely compliment!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  32. Hi Shelbee! I felt touched by your story and I can also relate to it. Thanks for giving us a glimpse of it.
    Also, I can´t help but say congrats for rocking those boots, I know I could never pull it off!

    • Helen, thank you so much for stopping by and reading my story! It is so validating to here that it is relatable. And I think you could probably rock over the knee boots quite stylishly, my friend!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  33. Shelbee, I absolutely love your boots. I need a pair like those soon.
    xx, Nailil
    http://www.thirtyminusone.com

  34. You have had so many exciting happenings going on lately! I really do feel getting up and getting dressed has definitely helped me feel more normal and in control during some rocky periods. I’m going to remember that quote from your counselor.

    • Shelly, thanks so much for stopping by! It really does make a difference to put yourself together even if it is only for appearance’s sake…especially on the days when you are feeling the worst. I am glad that my counselor’s quote is helpful to others…mostly because it essentially saved my life! Have a fabulous day, my friend.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  35. Those boots are amazing!

  36. Great post and great outfit Shelbee. I love blogging and where it can take you 🙂 Thanks for linking up.

  37. I love those boots and getting excited about your next venture. The sky is the limit. . . .

    http://www.madamtoomuch.com

  38. I sooo want those boots

    Mollyx

  39. Every week I see these pictures and what I really see is a woman full of self-esteem, and it is fantastic. And if you are not full of self-esteem, my program says Act As If, and you sure are. I love these posts!

    • Mitch, thank you so very much for this amazingly validating comment! My mission with this blog is to reach people on a level that will help them live their very best lives…whatever that means to each individual who reads my posts. If I can set a good example and inspire someone, then I am doing the job I set out to do. I appreciate your support more than you know. And I value the work you do on your blog as well! Thanks for stopping by and have a fabulous weekend.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  40. Thanks for linking up to Top of the World Style.

  41. It’s so great that you are talking about this because it affects so many of us. It is important to address and discuss. Surprisingly enough, I’ve posted this on the blog not too long ago: http://the-wardrobe-stylist.com/2017/10/20/healthy-workplace-corporate-wellness/ I think you will find it refreshing.

    • Rania, thank you so much for this validating comment. This is why I like to share all of my stories, quirks, and demons. Because people do relate to it. And hopefully it can help someone else to be more comfortable facing their own demons. I am headed over to check out your post now. Thanks for stopping by and have a wonderful weekend.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  42. First off, thank you kindly for the pick! It made my day!! I love that you know exactly why you blog and that you stick to your goals and visions. It’s also cool to see how this may expand for you in some way. I’ll definitely continue to follow along with you on your adventures; wherever they may lead. I enjoyed this post and love that chambray dress with those black boots. Of course we cannot leave out the red bag, which pops and begs to be noticed! I hope you’re having a fabulous weekend Shelbee. Continue to inspire folks with your passion, energy and openness with your struggles and how you’ve overcome and continue to work in overcoming!

    • Chrissy, thank you so much for this amazing comment! I really appreciate all of your support and this kind of validation for what I do is so important to me. You rock, my friend!

      xoxo
      Shelbee

  43. I’m intrigued to see what this leads to…sounds like a fascinating encounter! Blogging brings many opportunites to meet new people and make connections, that’s why I love it so much!

    Emma xxx
    http://www.style-splash.com

    • Emma, thank you so much for stopping by! Lew and I are currently brainstorming some topics on mental health issues that we will discuss on his live radio show! I will be sure to post about so anyone who is interested can tune and hear.

      xoxo
      Shelbee

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