Way back in the infancy of this blog, I wrote a post 39 Lessons I Have Learned on My Journey Out of the Darkness into My Happiness. It is still one of my favorite posts. It took a lot of energy to draft and it’s long. But it’s heartfelt and intense at points. Just last night the topic of women always changing their minds came up. Often, among couples this is a common joke…how the man in the relationship is steadfast and consistent in his wants, needs, ideas, and beliefs and how the female is fickle and flighty and inconsistent in making decisions. In light of this age old (mis)conception, I thought it would be fun to revisit what I wrote on the topic two years ago.
I believe that changing your mind is not a trait that should be assigned solely to the female gender. I think it is a right that we should all reserve for ourselves, male or female. I wrote this:
“I have learned that it is okay to change your mind, your beliefs, your opinions, your tastes, and your priorities. Human beings are not static creatures. We are ever-evolving based on our experiences. It is supposed to be this way.”
“I have learned that as my mind, beliefs, opinions, tastes, and priorities change so will the nature of my relationships with other people.”
So if our minds, beliefs, opinions, tastes, and priorities are the essence of who we are, it would make sense that as these things change over the years, we become different people. I know for sure that I am not the same person I was 25 years ago, 15 years ago, or even 5 years ago. I like to believe that as I change in these ways, I become a better person with each evolution. At least that is what is strive to do.
Now put these changes into the context of a relationship between two people. As we change, so may our partners. What happens then? While our beliefs and opinions and priorities may have been compatible at one point, suddenly they may not be. Fortunately for me and my husband, we have remained completely compatible throughout these various sets of changes that have occurred over the last decade. Some others may not have the same experience. At this point, things may need to be reevaluated. And that’s okay in my opinion. It’s healthy to reevaluate where we stand on issues that are important to us. And it’s healthy to make changes if necessary whatever they may be.
So while I may joke that as a woman I reserve the right to change my mind, I believe that we should all reserve that right. To change our minds. To explore our options. To hear other ideas. To discover what works best for us. To evolve into the best versions of ourselves. Because getting too comfortable and static in the same mindset for the rest of your life can be a very dangerous (and boring) thing.
Shirt: Women’s Plus White Poplin Gathered Waist Top – Victoria Beckham for Target
Jeans: Old Navy (Similar here, here, and here).
Scarf: Shelbee’s Shoppe (Brand new item, not listed online yet, available in 4 colors).
Sandals: Kohl’s (Similar here).
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