There’s a lot of talk in the blogging community as well as in the fashion world about where women of a certain age fit into the whole spectrum. And by a certain age, I mean my age, or midlife, or any age over 30 really. We are told by society what’s appropriate at our age as far as our style goes which includes everything from our clothes, our shoes, our hair and makeup. In fact, it is being dictated exactly how we should act, feel, and present ourselves once we cross that threshold (30 years) into official “mature adulthood”. Whatever the hell that means.
I figured it was high time I jumped on the mature woman bandwagon and shared my thoughts on all this hogwash. My opinion is simply this…fuck that. If I am being completely truthful, I did fall into this appropriate trap sometime in my 30’s. I had some people tell me I looked ridiculous trying to dress like I was in my 20’s. Or worse, why was I trying to look like a teenager? And even worse yet, why do you dress simply for the sake of getting attention? Yes, I was once accused of trying too hard to look outlandish.
I must dispute that…first of all, my clothes are by no means outlandish in the world of fashion. Second of all, I don’t really try all that hard. It sort of comes naturally. And third, I dress for no one’s attention. I dress the way I do so when I look in the mirror, I see a put together confident woman with a smile on her face. And that is really the only reason I dress the way I do. If I can inspire others to look and feel their best along the way, well then, that’s just icing on the cake.
I also refuse to firmly plant myself into a sartorial box of sorts. For me, every day is a new opportunity to get dressed up according to what I am feeling that day and tackle the world in style. I cannot put my personal style into any specific category. I love vintage inspired clothing. I adore the easy feel of boho looks. I am completely game for a power outfit that screams “this woman is in control”. I also have a tendency (about once a week) to return to those Goth roots of my teenage years. Basically, if you were to walk into my closet, you would see that just about anything goes! And I like it that way.
We are forever changing beings. That is the nature of human existence. We evolve as we gain experience and wisdom through the years. We are introduced to so many new and unique things. Especially in this age of technology, we are bombarded with option upon option. Fun and interesting things to try that we may have never thought would be in our wheelhouse. We are fickle. Coincidentally, the world of fashion is just as fickle as we human beings. But once we reach a certain age, we should have the confidence to embrace our fickleness and try all the new things without fear of judgment.
For me, the only rule I follow when putting on an outfit is that I feel exactly like myself on that particular day. Sometimes, I do look in the mirror and I think “That just looks ridiculous. I’m not feeling it. It’s not me today and I don’t feel good wearing it.” And guess what, I don’t have to wear it! I am an adult with a mind of my own and I can wear whatever the hell I want. I also can decide to change my outfit 15 times during the day if I feel like it. There’s nobody telling me that I can’t.
So as far as I am concerned about this appropriate trap, if you are wearing something that makes you feel great, makes you feel confident, makes you smile, makes you stand a little taller and walk a little bolder, then you will always be appropriate.
My entire outfit is from Torrid Salmon Run Mall.
Black Lace Duster: Sold Out.
Skirt: Torrid Striped Sheer Flared Skirt.
Shirt: Torrid Black Foxy Cutout Tank Top.
Belt: Torrid Double Strap Faux Suede Wide Belt.
Jacket: Sold Out (c/o Zaful).
Boots: Steve Madden (from at least 10 years ago).
Earrings: Burlington Coat Factory.
Bracelet: Cato Fashions.
What do you wear that makes you feel amazing?
Now let’s check out your favorite fabulous links from last week!
Jodie, Nancy, and Charlotte of Jodie’s Touch of Style are showcasing some beautiful outfits complete with accessories from Soft Surroundings in their post 3 Generations of Fall Outfits with Soft Surroundings.
Yvonne of Funky Forty shared her post 3 Wardrobe Staples Every Woman Should Own for Fall 2017. She is looking ever so fabulous in her Fall styling with some great options for your shopping convenience!
Also, please stay tuned this month as my article “The Midlife Sex Conundrum” will be appearing in the Fall issue of Resilientista Magazine! Coming on September 22! Be sure not to miss it by subscribing right here! It will be sent directly to your e-mail inbox.
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