My Religion: The Greatest Of These Is Love

I began a recent post My Response to the Presidential Election with the words “I am not a political person. Nor am I a religious person. But I am a passionate person.” The post then went on to discuss my political (or lack thereof) views. And the part about not being religious was just left hanging out there undiscussed.

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Not wanting to just leave it hanging there undiscussed, I figured now was as a good a time as any to share my religious views with you. They are quite similar to my political views. My feelings are this: if what you believe gets you through the day and the night and all the craziness in between, if what you believe helps you sleep soundly, makes you feel safe, gives you hope when you have lost it, soothes you when need it, heals you when you are broken, lifts you up when you have fallen, then what you believe is 100% absolutely the right thing for you to believe. And I support it…as long as it does not bring harm to others.

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I was raised in a Christian household. I was forced to attend church my entire childhood. My beliefs waxed and waned throughout those years. I was in it wholeheartedly. Then I was out of it. My religious beliefs have cycled and swirled and changed direction and evolved throughout my 42 years of life. In college, I majored in Philosophy with a minor in Religious Studies which had great impact on where I stand today on these issues. I have experienced darkness and I have seen the light. I have lost loved ones and I have come face to face with really bad people. I have changed my mind and I have changed my attitude, probably a million times, and ultimately I have landed right here.

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And right here, where I stand on religion, is a place where kindness must rule, where faith in something bigger than us must exist, where love must prevail. I don’t care what religious label you give to yourself or what name you call your higher power. If that power teaches that goodness, kindness, love and caring toward yourself and others is the most important thing, then it is a good belief system.

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I don’t necessarily like the labels for myself. But I don’t judge those who feel secure in the labels. I don’t judge those who feel that their religion has failed them. I really just don’t judge at all. To each his own. For those who have lost their way, I do hope you are able to find it again…somehow, some way, no matter what you call it. I hope you find your way to self-love, to kindness, and to faith in something.

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I do not wish to offend anyone of any religious belief system. But since I grew up in an environment where I have read and studied the Bible, I am going to leave you with this final thought. The most important lesson in that book, the one lesson that I think transcends all lessons, the one lesson that permeates throughout most religions, the one that I believe if you take nothing else from it you should carry this one with you…regardless of what your religion is named…

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“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.  For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.  When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.  For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

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And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”  (1 Corinthians 13:4-13)

It seems now, more than ever, we need to have faith.  Faith in ourselves and faith in others.  We need to hold onto hope.  Hope that goodness and kindness will prevail.  And we need to practice love.  Always practice love.  In everything we do and say.

Sharing faith, hope, and love from the edge,


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Outfit details:

*This is not a sponsored post. All clothing items, beliefs, thoughts, and opinions are exclusively my own.

Dress: Shelbee’s Shoppe ($34. Available in 6 colors. If interested in seeing other colors or purchasing, please message or comment as I am still struggling with getting my online shop set up.)
Sweater: Fort Drum Exchange.
Shoes: Payless (No longer available but similar here).


I am a 40 something Army wife and stay-at-home mother of 2 boys and 2 cats named Dave and Frankie. I have a passion for helping other women feel fabulous in the midst of this crazy, beautiful life.

24 Responses

  1. Well, that is something different! I am not religeous, but I do believe in”something”. What a lovely dress. Are you writing a post about that day on a market where you sold your items from your shop?

  2. I absolutely love that passage Shelbee and I truly think the world would be a better place if more people really followed that thinking!
    You look spectacular!!

  3. First of all I love how that dress and cardi look Shelby.
    Like you I think that if it works for you, makes you happy and fulfilled and does not harm anyone, let it be.

  4. I think kindness being the rule is such a great way to live, lady- good for you for expressing it!

    Le Stylo Rouge

  5. Shelbee, I am married to a Philosophy professor, so he knows what it is to question and search and think. That passage in 1 Corinthians is a central part of the Christian faith, unfortunately many who say they are Christians do not embrace that passage. But we live in a world full of broken people. I am glad that you have found a place where you feel at peace. Your dress is very cute. I love the colors and your lace up shoes. Great look. – Amy

    • Amy, thank you so much for the kind compliment and the all around insightful comment. I remember learning in Philosophy classes as well that faith is a foundation of our existence. In order to survive this life, we really do need to have faith in people and faith in the universe. Especially in a world full of broken people….faith and love must prevail.


  6. Nice thoughts. I believe that all religions and faiths have the same basic core and that is to love each other and to live in peace with each other. We humans are the ones that are messing it up.

  7. Lovely dress and shoes, Shelbee! I love seeing all of the different things you can do with an outfit!

  8. Such a beautiful post! Love IS patient; Love IS kind! One truth that I’m always being reminded of is that love and kindness always wins. Have a great weekend, Shelbee 🙂

    Edye |

    • Thank you so much for this lovely comment, Edye! And I hope love and kindness do win this current battle our nation seems to be fighting against itself! #SpreadTheKindness I hope you have a blessed and beautiful weekend!


  9. Thanks for linking up to Top of the World Style.

  10. Great post. I feel much the same way in regards to religion.

    Thanks for sharing on #FridayFrivolity. We will be partying on Thanksgiving night, I hope we will see you there.

  11. Shelbee
    I agree and support what you believe in. What makes one feel safe, etc , I grew up Catholic, and do believe in some of the teachings, perhaps not the strictest of dogma, but a higher power. Enjoyed reading. Love your dress on you and the lace ups are adorable!
    Enjoy your weekend
    Thanks for linking
    Jess xx

    • Thanks so much, Jess, for your very thoughtful response! I am definitely a firm believer that we need to do whatever it takes to us get us through the day…even if others disagree. Just because a certain belief may not work for me, doesn’t mean it won’t work for someone else.


  12. I concur with your guiding principals and it’s unfortunate that there are some who’s outlooks are so narrow that they feel it necessary that others believe as they do. Thank you for sharing your perspective on religion and for adding your post to my Fine-Whatever link up.


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