If you are a regular reader here, then you know one of the qualities of my personality that I take great pride in is that I am open and honest in all things while at the same time remaining sincere and kind. With the year 2017 coming to an end, I wanted to take an opportunity to share with you some of my deepest random truths…with regard to the holidays, to blogging, and to life in general.
*This is a sponsored post. This coat was provided to me for purposes of this blog post. All thoughts and opinions are entirely my own.
On the Holidays
1. I love the festive feel that surrounds us when people get in the holiday spirit. Holiday decorations surround us every where we go and children get super excited for Christmas morning. Families come together and enjoy precious time visiting and celebrating. It just gives me all the feels. But there is part of me that also cannot wait for it to be over.
2. I hate the commercialism of Christmas. I am just as guilty as the next person when it comes to over-spending at the holidays wanting to make it special for everyone. Over the years, I have lost touch with the reality of this holiday, so this year I have pulled back tremendously. While my kids will still have gifts under the Christmas tree, everything else has been done minimally and frugally. There is no adult in my life including myself who should have hurt feelings over not receiving some unnecessary over-priced present. I am a very giving and generous person and I would rather provide gifts throughout the year to people who actually need things.
3. While society pushes generosity and kindness during the holiday season, I prefer to always be generous and kind. I like to sprinkle the world over with kind gestures every chance I get. The holidays do not inspire me to do this any more or any less than any other time of year.
4. My children, ages 4 and 6, completely understand that Mommy and Daddy purchase all of their Christmas presents from the store. It did not sit easy on my heart to allow them to believe that all of the gifts that appear on Christmas morning are from some magical elf who for some inexplicable reason does not visit every child. While they still think Santa exists, they believe that he merely visits our house after they are asleep, has a snack, and helps us move the presents that Mommy wrapped from the basement to underneath the tree. (Keeping them out of the basement in the meantime is a challenge all its own!)
5. We are not church-goers and have never been. I do display my mother’s nativity every year for no other reason than because it holds sentimental value. My children are aware of the story of Jesus’s birth and have been exposed to many different religious beliefs. For me, religion is a very personal decision and I will allow my children to explore their options and make their own religious choices when they are old enough to comprehend what it all means. In the meantime, I will teach them to be kind, loving, caring, hard-working individuals.
1. My blogging journey began as a hobby and a creative outlet. It has turned into my passion. I have been told so many times, if you continue to do what you love for the right reasons and dedicate your heart and soul to it because you feel like it is your mission, eventually rewards will abound. While I have not made much financial progress with my blog to date, the rewards have already be more than I could have imagined. So I am going to just keep doing what I do and we will see where this road leads me.
2. I do receive products for free to share on my blog. This is a lot of fun for a person who absolutely loves all things fashion. But it is also a lot of work. I do get to choose the items that brands send me, so they are always pieces that I would wear. In fact, I find many of my gifted items become favorites and are on constant rotation in my wardrobe. This red coat is sure to become one of those favorites!
3. Very recently, I have started receiving minimal payments for certain blog posts. Some of these posts are in the form of wish lists and others are marked as contributed content. While I do prefer to write my own content because that keeps authenticity involved in what I do, I also have to make some money to support the costs involved in running a blog. However, I do retain all editorial control over any content on my blog. So I will never publish something that will make you think, “What in the world is she doing?” However, I will always let you know where my ideas are coming from by noting if a post is contributed content, sponsored, guest posted, or featuring gifted items.
4. When I am inspired by someone whether it is another blogger or a local business, I feel compelled to write about it. Writing (and fashion, of course) is how I best express myself which is one of the primary reasons I do what I do. My Inspired By posts and #SpreadTheKindness features are never requested by the party who is featured. That is all me, doing what I love to do, and spreading kindness with genuine reviews of fabulous people and businesses. Often times, the subjects of these posts are not even aware that I am featuring them until I have already published the post.
1. Some of what I write about or what I say or what I believe may appear to be hypocritical at times. But you know what, we are all hypocrites. It is the nature of human beings. I will not judge your hypocrisy if you will not judge mine. I also reserve the right to change my mind, my beliefs, and my opinions at any given moment. Another quality of human nature. We are not static beings. Nor should we be.
2. The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm. Yes, as people, we do need community. It is never a bad idea to ask for help when you need it. But at the end of the day, when everyone has gone their own way, you have only yourself to rely on. And if you can’t motivate yourself or find your own passion and happiness inside your own heart, then you are going to be lost. Be your own light and you will shine brighter than ever.
3. I believe in truth and honesty with all of my heart. I am real and authentic and genuine. Sometimes harsh, but always caring and kind. I will not give an unsolicited opinion or advice. But if you ask for it, you are going to receive an unfiltered, unabashed, unapologetic response from my own perspective. However, while I believe in truth and honesty, there are times and situations that necessitate less than truth. Which comes back to the hypocrisy of human beings. It is what we are. No apologies are necessary.
4. Every person has a story. Every person has a journey. Every person travels their own road at their own pace and will arrive at certain destinations in their own time. This is not for anyone else to dictate. I try my very hardest to meet people right where they are in their journey with acceptance and love and kindness and a helping hand or word of advice if they ask for it. That is what I have to offer in this life and I am grateful that I have a voice of experience within me to share with others.
So you all know by now (because I just said it up above somewhere) that writing is my method of self-expresion. And as such, I could go on and on revealing my random truths. But at this point in the post, I have already surpassed 1,400 words and that’s just too many for one post. So I am going to end here wishing you all the happiest of days to end the year and the most precious blessings in the new year to come.
And now your favorite posts from last week.
Nailil of Thirty Minus One just celebrated a blogiversary in her post Velvet Wrap Dress + One Year Blog Anniversary. Does’t she look magnificent in her magenta velvet dress? Happy One Year Anniversary, Nailil! Thanks so much for what you do and for always inspiring us!
Jodie, Nancy, and Charlotte of Jodie’s Touch of Style joined forces with Eve of The World According to Eve and her mom Sheela of Sheela Writes to show us outfits Inspired by Dylan Sanders from Charlie’s Angels. For real, all five of these ladies can rock some serious Charlie’s Angels vibes!
Do you have any random holiday truths to share?
I plan on posting throughout the holiday week, so if you are hanging around in blogland at all, I would love for you to hop on over and see what’s going on in my world. In fact, this outfit without the coat will be appearing soon in some wonderful family photos we just had done by the super creative and talented Sarissa Melissa Photography.
Keeping it on the edge,
Linking up with these Fabulous Link Ups.