Love will prevail. These are words I spoke last week and it really got me thinking about what that means exactly. I was chatting with another mom and I was complaining about how exhausted I am parenting alone for the past 3 months while my husband has been away. And she replied with equal complaints about how difficult it is parenting with a partner who is there in body but absent in every other way.
She went on to explain that maybe they were just in a rough patch and it would pass. They are 13 years into their relationship and 8 years into their marriage with two kids. They are a same sex couple who fought for their right to even be married and then had children via sperm donors. I share that information because I can only imagine that those two things alone can add a tremendous strain on a relationship as if relationships aren’t hard enough. I wasn’t sure how to respond to her, so I simply said “Love will prevail.” And she responded with “I hope so. I really hope so.”
As I drove away, I started thinking about the implications and the power that our words can have on other people. Did I just give her some sort of false hope? I don’t know any more details about the nature of their relationship other than what I just shared. What if the relationship is failing? Or did I give her the little bit of hope that she needed to hold on to what is very possibly a strong relationship worth saving? I’m really not sure.
And as my thoughts went off on their accord as they often do, I started thinking about how that statement could be interpreted in so many different ways and mean so many different things. Love will prevail. It obviously has prevailed for them to this point. Through all the struggles they have already encountered. They are still in it together 13 years later. So love is prevailing. In some form.
And love for whom? In any relationship that encounters problems, if the love between the two partners falters, can love for your children prevail and bring you back around to your good place? What about love for yourself? That is so important, too. In my experience, you can’t give your love adequately to another until you fully and completely love yourself. And what does loving yourself mean? Sometimes, it means leaving a bad relationship. Even when you still love your partner and you love children. You must love yourself first and foremost. If leaving is the outcome, isn’t that still love prevailing? And if staying is the decision, then shouldn’t the focus be on the love that you had in order to strengthen what was there at the beginning? How exactly does love prevail? It can happen in so many various ways.
I never finished discussing the topic with this woman. And I doubt she reads my blog (I don’t think she even knows that I write a blog). And I sure hope she would not be offended by my sharing this. But I also hope that she finds a way for love to prevail. In whatever way that she needs it to. Love is a powerful thing. And it can accomplish some amazing feats. So for anyone reading this, if you are having doubts in your life…think about what that statement may mean to you in your own personal context. Love will prevail. Some how, in in its own way, I really do believe this is true.
What about you? Has your love made it through the toughest of times? Can love prevail?
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And a very Happy 4th Birthday to this little guy today! He torments me something fierce! But love definitely prevails!
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