Ivory Lace with Denim, An Apology & Link Up On the Edge #19

I love to pair feminine lace with a more masculine fabric like leather or denim. There is nothing more feminine than an ivory lace dress. There is nothing less feminine than slouchy ripped boyfriend jeans. Throw said dress over aforementioned jeans and it is a match made in sartorial heaven.





I styled this particular outfit on a very cool day back in July, but I felt it was more appropriately shared during a warm spell in October. And yesterday, we had temperatures around 70 degrees, so the timing seems just right. Today is rainy and cooler and I was fully prepared to photograph my very autumnal outfit that I am donning today. But alas, my remote is refusing to connect to my iPhone so photographs of today’s outfit seem like an impossible dream. So thank goodness for old, previously unshared outfit photos.




And today’s outfit is a cute one, too. In fact, the man with the tattooed face whom I see everyday at school drop off approached me this morning and said, “I really like the way you dress. You have amazing style.” Wow. I was kind of floored. Now I like tattoos. In fact, I have quite a few myself. But not on my face. And I have to admit that I have indeed judged the man with the tattooed face. Perhaps I should not have been so quick to judge. Because he seemed like a very nice man. He spoke kindly and gently and his compliment seemed of the most sincere and genuine nature. So shame on me. And to the man with the tattooed face, I apologize for passing judgment. I also thank you for your kind words and for reminding me to keep my judgments in check.




But back to my denim and lace outfit here. Everything has been in my closet for quite some time. So a great example that you can shop your closet and create on-trend pairings even with old pieces. The only thing purchased recently were my tassel sandals which I scored on huge clearance from Target at the end of summer.

*This is not a sponsored post.




How do you feel about pairing contrasting pieces together to create more interest in an outfit? But more importantly, have you passed judgment on someone a little too quickly and then found yourself eating those words? It definitely was a lesson for me today and one I need to remember more consistently.


Thank you to everyone who stops by every week and joins my link up! I really appreciate your loyalty and support. I love seeing what you are all wearing, sharing, and discussing each week. And now here are your two favorites from last week:

Jodie, Nancy, and Charlotte of Jodie’s Touch of Style are reader favorites for the third time in four weeks! You know why? Because these ladies rock! Check out how brilliantly they have styled their Ankle Boots with Short Trousers. Also, the printed booties they are showcasing are so fabulous!


Lana of My New Happy also captured your attention with a post about boots. Check out her contribution to the October Style Series with The Blended Blog.


How cute are Lana’s peep toe booties for the transition into fall?!


Apologies from the edge,


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I am a 40 something Army wife and stay-at-home mother of 2 boys and 2 cats named Dave and Frankie. I have a passion for helping other women feel fabulous in the midst of this crazy, beautiful life.

92 Responses

  1. such a gorgeous outfit! love the bag!!!

  2. Hey girl – I’ve gotten your LI requests. Look me up at Johanna Grange because my account is connected through my business at Oak St. Social. I tried to accept but it won’t work unless you connect with me through OSS. xo

    • Thanks, Johanna! I don’t even go on LI very often. But I updated it a few weeks back and apparently it sent email requests to literally everyone I have ever sent an email to in the history of email! I definitely connect with you once I get a chance to go back and play with LI! Have a fab weekend!


  3. I’ve had The same remote problems this week ! Pain in the butt huh? I ended up getting someone to click the button at the end. It’s a great idea to have a backup post. I love how you styled floaty feminine with jeans Selby x

    • Thanks so much, Laurie! I did finally get the remote to connect later in the day and was able to photograph my outfit. Unfortunately, I did not have anyone around today to take the photos for me. My remote has been weird like this for the past few weeks. So irritating!


  4. S, you look so very pretty in those close up pics and sometimes we are quick to judge ๐Ÿ˜‰ How very nice of the gentleman to give you am honest compliment.

  5. You can never judge a book by it’s cover and that man was spot on, you do have great style! This is such a pretty look and I love your bag!

    Doused In Pink

  6. Shelbee, you rock that outfit. I love lace and denim, or lace and leather. Contrast of colors or textures or prints say a lot in an outfit and this one speaks volumes. No wonder that man liked your style. Love. Thanks for sharing and for hosting the link up. – Amy

  7. You look great and I love the purse (handbag)! I also like how you tied the light-weight jacket. That’s neat that they guy was so nice. We need more friendly people in the world! I also appreciate it when ladies take the time to put an outfit together and I usually compliment the grade 4 teacher every Tuesday morning that I see who always has a different outfit on with tastefully chosen jewelry/accessories. (I take her class during Bible time here in South Africa.) I don’t have any fashion posts of me, but I do have my daughters, so I hope you enjoy theirs! P.S. My eldest daughter ordered a temporary tattoo for her prom, which I linked above. Thanks for hosting and sending me an invite via email!

    • Christina, thank you so much. For reading my blog, for taking the time to leave such a lovely comment, and for sharing links with us all! I hope you have a fabulous weekend! And I hope to see you at my link up next week up as well!


  8. I love denim and lace paired together. Nice job! And great reminder…I think we are all guilty of this.

  9. what a cute top! I love anything lace ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. I know what it’s like to being creative in the face of technology fails. Your outfit is fabulous and the match up of different styles is brilliant. I’m crushing on the purse. Thanks for persevering and hosting (and I agree that Jodie and her moms rock).


    • Thank you so, so much, Rena! That is such a wonderful comment! I have had this purse for about forever and can’t even remember where I got it. I do hope you have a wonderful weekend.


  11. Love all the different shades of cream in this look Shelbee! That vintage purse is gorgeous too. Thanks for the link up!


  12. Gosh, thanks for the shout out :)! I’m always so shocked when I see myself on another blog :)! Love your lace/denim outfit. Such a pretty top on you. I think we’re all guilty of judging a book by its cover sometimes. What a nice compliment he gave you! Hope you have a great weekend!

    • Thank you, Lana! And thank you for inspiring us. It is always my pleasure to share other fabulous posts! I was equally shocked by the compliment I received from that nice man today! Have a fabulous weekend!


  13. I’ve learned to never judge a “book by its cover” as well. Hard lesson to learn, but it’s something that I only had to learn once. Cute outfit!


    • Apparently, I need to keep relearning it, Ruth! It is so easy to fall back into my old uninformed ways. Thanks so much for stopping by and for the lovely comment. Have a wonderful weekend.


  14. Great outfit – love the mix of the feminine with the distressed denim and your apology is pretty sweet,too! Have a great weekend.

  15. My sort of outfit – spot on Shelbee. Nice to link up with you. Jacqui

  16. Loving this!!!! Have a great weekend!

  17. Not only is he a very nice man, he also knows great style when he sees it! Cute story!

    Love the lace dress with the distressed jeans … great combo.

    Thanks so much for sharing with Fun Fashion Friday!

    Dawn Lucy

  18. Fabulous mix of masculine and feminine. I always enjoy the yen and yang of such looks. The lace and denim work wonderfully together! It is sad to realize we sometimes judge people, but good for you for extending an apology. Isn’t it so nice when a complete stranger compliments you? I have been making more of an effort to do this when I see someone who just makes me smile. Enjoy your weekend, Shelbee!

    • Thanks so much, Jennie! I absolutely love to compliment complete strangers. It makes me so happy to see the joy on their faces when a stranger approaches them with an unprompted, unexpected compliment! Pay it forward, I say! Spread the love!


  19. Sorry to hear of your remote troubles, but glad we got the chance to see this outfit. It’s so pretty :). I adore outfits that mix feminine and edgy, and you’ve done it well here. The man with the tattooed face is right, you have great style!


  20. This is one of my favorite outfits on you ever, Shelbee. You need to do whites and creams more often. Love the lace tunic+kimono look. Your positive attitude and spirit shines through this outfit and this post. And I will be honest with you, I’d have probably judged a man with a tattoeed face, too.

    Have a great weekend friend!

    • Thanks so much, Ada! I do love creams and whites, but with two young boys, I tend to steer away from these shades! And yes, judging in this situation didn’t feel completely horrible…but then, bam…super nice guy! I don’t know why I would have thought he wouldn’t be a nice guy. At least I was reminded that you really cannot judge a person’s personality based solely upon their appearance.


  21. This beige lace dress is great. I like you in these fair colors. This one is maybe the favorite outfit of yours so far.

    Anna xoxo

  22. What you said just made my day Shelbee! I can’t tell you how much that means to me to have you say that!! (that we rock)!!
    And I know exactly what you mean about judging—we all do it, and i think it’s impossible not to. But as long as we only think it for a sec and then realize and don’t act accordingly—then maybe we’re doing better!
    I love your laces together—very, very lovely!!

    • Thank you so much, Jodie! I couldn’t agree with you more! Recognizing our faults and striving to improve ourselves is the only way to make change happen. And it is always my pleasure to feature fabulous bloggers and you are always so fabulous! I hope you have a wonderful weekend!


  23. Great look! and that little purse is so darling!! wishing you a wonderful weekend. ๐Ÿ™‚

  24. Glad the weather worked out for the outfit. It looks great for summer and fall. Would love if you can link up to http://the-wardrobe-stylist.com/2016/10/16/summer-fall-fashion-bloggers-style/

  25. What a nice compliment you received for your great style ๐Ÿ™‚ I agree, this look is better for a warm fall day but it could also work for a cooler later summer.

    ~ xo Sheree
    Posh Classy Mom

  26. My husband and I are both too quick to judge others. Hangs head in shame. It’s a horrid trait, and one which we’re trying very hard to curb especially as we’ve both been on the other side of thing ourselves many a time. Hopefully, with time, we’ll get better at adjusting our views of others. Sartorially speaking, tough meets delicate is truly a match made in style heaven, and nothing I like better. Love your lace dress, love your smile even more XOXO

    • And I love your always thoughtful and brilliant comments, Sheela! Thank you so very much. I think if we continue to work on ourselves and always strive to be the best versions of ourselves, then we will start to see changes in this world. And I think it is okay to falter sometimes as long as we make the effort to rectify the errors of our ways.


  27. Amazing outfit Shelbee and nice story.
    In german, sorry
    Ich versuche nie einen Menschen nach seinem ร„uรŸeren zu bewerten. Ist schwierig, ich weiss, ist es doch das Erste was wur wahrnehmen.
    I wish you a wonderfull weekend Shelbee, hugs

  28. I love your outfit and that bag is fabulous! About judging…..I went the other day to get the flew injection(don t know if youknow what I mean, half of our village is Standing in lines somethere to get a flew injection)and one child, about 11years old, was really crying. I told someone saying that the child was over reacting and that person said: did you know why the child had to get the injection, she obviosly isn t well. I was so ashamed!!!!!! Why in havens name was I so judging???? So , we all do it sometimes!

    • Oh, Nancy, I hear you! We do all fall into this judging pattern sometimes. I think it is just human. Also, I think as long as we can recognize our errors, be genuinely sorry for doing it, forgive ourselves, and move on, then we can begin to change our ways. Most important of this is forgiving ourselves so that we can move on. Thanks so much for stopping by and for sharing your story!


  29. What a great reminder to not judge based on appearance. Thanks for sharing that story!

  30. Such a pretty feminine look, love the layering here.
    Rachel xo

  31. Lovely top!

    Don’t forget to check out this outfit I am wearing this week at the blog for the last installment of my exciting collab with fashion forward brand STAYING SUMMER – I am sure you’ll like it!

    Happy Friday!


  32. I love pairing masculine pieces with feminine ones, adding a big of edge to my look, and you did this perfectly! Love the lace top.

  33. I absolutely love that bag. It’s gorgeous!

  34. Thanks for hosting and have a wonderful weekend.

  35. Those shoes are so cute and versatile! Love them! Thanks for hosting, Shelbee <3

    Edye | http://gracefulcoffee.com

  36. I have always liked (but have yet to try myself) wearing a dress with jeans. I love you picked this color, it is so flattering with those awesome jeans.
    Thank you for hosting,


    • Thank you so much, Melissa! I love the dress over jeans trend. I remember wearing dresses over jeans back in the 90’s and early 2000’s, too! You should definitely try it out. Have a fabulous weekend!


  37. How sweet of that man to tell you that! I agree, you never can judge someone by how they appear. That blouse is so pretty on you especially paired with the denim! Sometimes I like to pair a nicer blouse with my denim, too instead of just something casual!


  38. It’s always so nice to hear of situations like that where we can be surprised by the difference between our assumptions and reality – so often it seems I’m surprised in the opposite direction! Thanks for sharing with us at #FridayFrivolity, Shelbee!

    • That is so true, Lisa! It was a pleasant and unexpected surprise, for sure. And it definitely added a little extra bounce to my step that day! Thanks for stopping by and have a wonderful day.


  39. Beautiful top. These details are amazing!

    Edwige | http://www.hypnozglam.com

  40. So comfy and stylish look!


  41. Lovely look . . . great read too ๐Ÿ™‚

    Life is just Rosie

  42. Cute outfit! Thanks for sharing at the Grace + Lace Linkup!

  43. I love mixing styles up and your outfit is so cute. It is exactly what I would wear! I bought some boyfriend crop jeans this summer and they are all I wore. I have short hair and large glasses so I totally identify with your style!

    • AnnMarie, thank you so much! And yes to short hair and large glasses! It totally becomes a signature style, right? I have worn glasses my whole life and it wasn’t until my 20’s when I started really viewing my glasses as fabulous accessories! I hope you have a lovely weekend!


  44. Thanks for linking up to Top of the World Style.

  45. great combo of casual & girly


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