Does my outfit offend you? Yes, this outfit. A modest midi length dress for fall. With a flouncy layered skirt and a plain black knit top. Perhaps the print is too much? Probably not. The mustard cardigan too bright? Doubtful. The simple gold leaf necklace? How could that possibly be offensive? Maybe it’s the lace up low block heeled pumps? But how?
*This is a sponsored post. This dress was given to my by Gamiss in exchange for this post. All thoughts and opinions are entirely my own.
Maybe I have misinterpreted your look of disdain as your eyes scanned me from head to toe twice over. I simply chirped a cheerful “Good Morning” to you as we passed in the school parking lot while dropping off our children. But when you snarled a fiery “Mornin'” at me, I sensed some sort of aversion to me. Hatred even. And it seemed very much directed at the way I was dressed.
*Shoes: Target (Similar here).
You see, this is what happened to me last week during school drop off. The hateful glare came from another child’s mother. While I did notice that she was wearing jeans, a sweatshirt, and sneakers, I really thought nothing of her outfit as it is the typical style exhibited by about 90% of the moms that I pass during the morning hours. But why was she so clearly offended that I was not wearing the typical “mom uniform”? I am not typical. And I don’t think I have ever worn jeans, a sweatshirt, and sneakers to school drop off, pick up, or anywhere in between.
And here’s why I was so confused by this apparent reaction of disgust to what I was wearing. This woman doesn’t know me. She knows not who I am or what I do. I would think that someone encountering a stranger this early in the morning wearing an outfit like the one I was wearing would just assume that I was dropping my kids off at school and heading to work. But wait! That is exactly what I was doing.
Yes, I am a stay at home mom. Yes, I write a fashion blog. And yes, my blog is a job that comes with a certain amount of obligations. These obligations require me to put on the clothing that brands send to me. And take photos of myself wearing them. And share them here…on my blog. That’s exactly what I was doing that day. I was dropping the kids at school, then meeting my husband at the park for a photo shoot.
But what do I do on days that I am not shooting an outfit? I am writing content. And I pour my heart and soul into the content that I share on my blog. For my regular readers, you all know that I don’t just show you pretty clothes and talk about them. I share the innermost workings of my mind. I share my passions, my experiences, my sense of humor. I share a lot more than just what I am wearing. And I get dressed to do that. Every. Single. Day. It is how I work best. I get up at 4:30 in the morning. I take a shower and I enjoy my coffee while I am catching up with my blogger friends.
Then I get dressed. Before I ever leave the house in the morning. I put on clothes. Real, actual outfits that are complete with accessories. My hair is done, my make up is on, and I am ready to conquer the day and all of my responsibilities. These responsibilities include getting kids out of bed, dressed for school, breakfast fed, lunches packed, and transportation to school. I also do lots of blog work from photo shoots to editing photos to creating content to answering emails. When I need a break from the computer to stretch my legs, I empty the dish washer, fold the laundry, and start dinner preparations. Then when afternoon arrives, I pick up the children from school…and this is how I dress to do all of that. And sometimes, if I am feeling really tired and I want to take a nap in the middle of the day, I lie down and take one…dressed just like this. Because it’s my choice. It’s what I do. It’s who I am. And who are you, sneering lady, to judge me?
Just as I don’t expect you to change out of your jeans and sweatshirt, you should not expect me to change out of my clothing either. All I can hope is that I have misinterpreted this contemptuous encounter. Perhaps you spilled coffee on your pretty dress that day and had to throw something on in a hurry to prevent your children from being late for school. And my pretty dress just stirred up your frustration with a bad morning. Yes, that is all I can hope for and hope I will…all while wearing my pretty dress.
Now onto the fun and more positive stuff! Here are your favorite posts from the last link up two weeks ago.
Nancy of Nancy’s Fashion Style hosts a monthly series called Styled by…where she features the story behind another person’s style.
And Susan of The Midlife Fashionista is looking radiant in blue and white denim in her post Summer to Fall Outfit. She also shows this outfit with a gorgeous blue printed wrap, but you need to visit the post to see it!
By the way, I am the one who should be offended!
Keeping it on the edge,
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