If you are friends with me or follow me on Facebook, then you already know that I have been receiving some pretty nasty messages and comments in response to my post about the Presidential election. Toward the end of that post, I stated, “Also know that I guarantee that I will NOT respond to harsh and unkind words. So if you are looking for a debate or an argument, you will not be satisfied here.” Being a person who reserves my right to change my mind, I have done just that. I have changed my mind. And at the end of this post, you will find my response to the following harsh and unkind words:
From email@example.com in an email to me titled “You’ve have a nerve“:
“Shame on you for not voting. I always thought you were are a fat ugly idiot, I mean look at yourself compared to other fashion bloggers. Now I can add to fat, ugly, idiot, stupid and irresponsible. You ought to concentrate on your real life instead of your fantasy blogging life. Your new president wouldn’t even consider you as a “1” on his scale in rating women.”
And a second email sent 8 minutes later from firstname.lastname@example.org:
“Can hardly believe you put you thoughts on the internet, let alone your picture as a “fashion blogger”? Get a full length mirror and look closely.”
Submitted to comments on my post from Ann at email@example.com:
“You are a fat slob and an imbicile.”
Also from Ann at firstname.lastname@example.org in a second comment:
“Fat dumb ass.”
And another from Ann at email@example.com:
“If you are so brave, publish ALL the comments you are receiving. You are an irresponsible citizen. How would your new president classify you as a “2”, maybe if you re lucky.”
Well, Ann, I am so brave. And I will publish your comments as I have published all the others. But I will do one better and share your comments in a post dedicated entirely to you and firstname.lastname@example.org.
Clearly, you are angry. And that is fine. Be angry. Use me as your scapegoat if you feel the need. You see, I have spent years building my spirit and I am quite resilient to harsh words. Also understand that I am quite empathic and I will meet you where you stand in your anger. But I will not respond with anger or hatred. We have enough of that in our world. I will meet you only with kindness and love…right where you stand. Give your anger its moment. And hopefully one day you will be able to find kindness and love. For me, I have found those things. I live those things. And because of that, my spirit cannot be broken.
Before closing this post, I do want to acknowledge another harsh comment that I received in response to my election post. This comment came from Michelle Cahill. I do not want to criticize it, however, for its harshness. I want to praise Michelle for taking the time to draft an intelligent well-thought out, passionate response. While I could easily have ignored her comment, become enraged by it, or simply disagreed with it, I chose instead to respect it because it did not come from hatred, it came from her own passionate beliefs on the subject. So Michelle Cahill, while we do not agree, I want to publicly thank you for taking the time to intelligently voice your thoughts and opinions. I have published it in my comment section with my response.
*I also owe a public apology to Apple because I jumped the gun on a quick IP search and declared that a mac.com email address was an Apple employee. If anyone from the Apple customer service department happens to read this, please disregard my irate complaint that was messaged earlier today. After further research, I realized the error in my conclusion. And that is a lesson to me about what happens when you act too quickly from a place of heated emotion. Pause first. Think for a moment. Because once you have reacted, it cannot be undone. I own my mistake and I apologize for acting too quickly.
Thanks to everyone who has supported me on this. And a big thanks to Kathryn for creating #teamshelbee! I love it.
Keep spreading the kindness my friends.
Keeping my spirit in tact on the edge,
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