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Shelbee Asked…”How Can I Manage My PMDD?”
I am a woman who has suffered from moderate PMS symptoms since the onset of my first menstrual cycle at 12 years old. However, in the past year, I have noticed an increase in the severity of my symptoms. Oftentimes, in the days leading up to my period, I end up losing days of productivity due to the extreme fatigue, debilitating cramps, and various other symptoms that sometimes feel like the onset of the flu. Rage and depression take over my mood all too frequently during these few days. To say it is frustrating is an understatement. It is an absolute interruption to my life. Knowing that I cannot possibly…
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Shelbee Says…”Losing a pet is like losing a family member.”
“Dear Shelbee, Our dog has recently become very ill and we have to put him down soon as he is suffering a lot. I cannot write much as I am suffering a lot as well. I consider him to be a son to me. I understand he is not human but I have had him since he was a baby. He is now a little more than 2 years old and I love him more than everything. I am trying to make his last days as happy as possible. What else can I do?…I have lost grandfathers and also a friend to cancer, but this loss is unbearable. Some people…
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Shelbee Says…”Do the Work”
“Dear Shelbee, I had been talking to a counselor about various issues in my life but I had to stop going because I was tired of the constant questioning of everything I do and feel. Everything wrong in my life is not all my fault. I get that I am responsible for my own behaviors, but there are other people to blame as well. What is the purpose of counseling if all it does it place blame on me? Nothing gets fixed that way. -Not to Blame” Dear Not to Blame, Life issues are not really a matter of blame at all. Life issues are just that…issues that we all…
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Shelbee Says… “Communication is the responsibility of both parties.”
“Dear Shelbee, my spouse and I seem to communicate better through text messaging than through face to face conversations. It seems that face to face conversations always end up in an argument, but when texting we can reveal our true thoughts and feelings more easily and express our frustrations without getting snippy with each other. How can we transition to smoother face to face conversations without arguing?” -I’d Rather Be Texting Dear Rather Be Texting, Communication is a rather tricky concept when you really think about it. The way we communicate with one another as humans is distinctly unique from the way communication happens among any other animal species on…
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Shelbee Asked…How Do We Deal with the Aftermath of School Shootings?
For the first post in my Shelbee Says…series, I actually asked the question myself. I posed it to my friends at BetterHelp because it is an issue that has been weighing on my mind and my heart lately and I knew I wanted to address it on my blog. However, it is topic that I am not all that well versed in and wanted the professionals to tackle it for me. My question was this…“How do we deal with the aftermath of all of the school shootings that have been happening recently?” I have very young school aged children and frankly this madness scares the hell out of me. While…
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Vanity or Sanity?
I have been struggling with the idea that fashion blogging carries a connotation of vanity. I mean, I take great care styling my outfits in the morning and taking photos of myself and then posting them on the internet for strangers to view. I suppose many would consider that vain. As a result, I was hesitant even before I started my blog. And I had to come to grips with that view. But it has been a struggle for me. I’m not one who generally feels the need to justify my actions, but for some reason with this blog, I do feel that need. So I had to look inside…