Are You Irresistible?

A few weeks ago, my friend Aimee sent me a link to the article 11 Secrets of Irresistible People with the message, “This reminds me of you…” So, of course, I was intrigued and wondering what in the world these 11 secrets were, I clicked the link and read on…

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As I read the qualities that supposedly make people irresistible, I was thinking, “Wow! Is this really how my friends perceive me?” Things like an irresistible person does not seek validation because their self-worth comes from within; they treat everyone with respect; and they are authentic and have integrity. I was flattered, honored, and shocked. I also suddenly felt a sense of pressure. Pressure to actually be all of these things. If this is the role where my friends place me…”the life of the party” and the one they turn to “for help, advice, and companionship”…well, then I have a pretty high standard to live up to.


As I read through these 11 qualities, I began evaluating myself, my character, and asking myself, “Do I really focus on people more than anything else?” I have a selfish streak, for sure. “Do I really have all that much integrity?” I can certainly gossip with the best of them. “Do I really follow the Platinum Rule, treating others as they want to be treated?” Sometimes, I can be an in-your-face, confront-you-with-what-you-don’t-want-address, call-you-out-on-your-bullshit, tough-love kind of friend. Most people don’t like that. Or do they?


As I delved deeper into self-examination, there were definitely a few of these 11 qualities where I could agree. I definitely smile…a lot. Even in the worst of moods, as I soon as I am dealing with the outside world, I feel that smiling comes naturally to me. And I have learned over the years that people really do respond in a much more positive way to a smiling person. And I really do like people as a general matter of fact, so I smile.

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I also do make an effort to look my best every day. I take the time to put myself together and be presentable. I do like the world to perceive me as a person who cares enough about myself to take some care and some pride in my appearance. Is this vain? Or is it just healthy? (I wrote an entire post about this topic which you can read here.)


And I do approach life and its obstacles with the mindset that all things are temporary…the ideas that this, too, shall pass, and whatever will be, will be are consistent themes that have appeared over and over again throughout the course of my life. I suppose I find these beliefs necessary for survival and healthy living. Dwelling on the rot in this world really can do no good.

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By the end of reading this article, I really was absorbed in a serious session of self-exploration. And then I wondered, irresistible or not, maybe that’s what really makes me special. That I can be presented with an extraordinary compliment such as this and I need to figure out why. And in the end, I will do my best to rise to that challenge.

So I ask you this: Are you irresistible?

Feeling introspective on the edge,


Outfit details:
Tunic: Cato Fashions (I am unable to find a link to this exact tunic, but they have other really fun tops in this same cobalt blue here, here, and here.)
Pants: Cato Fashions (from last year). Other black and white printed pants here and here.
Shoes: Payless (from last year). Similar here, here, and here.
Necklace: 35″ Blue Tassel Necklace from Target.
Earrings: Fort Drum Exchange.

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I am a 40 something Army wife and stay-at-home mother of 2 boys and 2 cats named Dave and Frankie. I have a passion for helping other women feel fabulous in the midst of this crazy, beautiful life.

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38 Responses

  1. Thanks for sharing this article. While *I* am not this person (ha), I KNOW this person, and he is a pleasure to be around, and everyone feels it. I often think to myself, What Would ___ Do? And now I have a nice easy 11-point list of things to practice πŸ™‚

    PS – love the patterned leggings!

    • I am so glad that you have this person, Bettye! And I’m glad I could provide you with a simple concise list for easy reference!!! Thanks so much for reading and for the kind compliment!


  2. Awesome that your friends think of you that way!!!!!! πŸ™‚ I’m loving this tunic!

  3. Tamara

    Such a pretty blue!


    Tamara –

  4. Well, I don’t know you personally, but I find you irresistible because something very real and authentic comes through in your writing and your photos. Maybe we could chalk it up to your smiling nature because your smile does beam through the photos. But I think it’s because you come across like somebody I could go to the movies with and belly laugh with. Or, if the occasion called for it, you seem like someone your friends can count on and cry with.

    Anyway, you’re way cool. πŸ™‚ And I love that tunic — that blue is gorgeous.

    – Sherry

    • Oh my, Sherry! Those are supremely kind and wonderful words! Thank you so much. I am feeling overwhelmed with the wonderful comments coming in response to this post! I hope it didn’t seem like I was fishing for compliments! I am always game for a good belly laugh, for sure! I need to find my way to a blogger meet up somewhere so I can hang with you wonderful ladies!


  5. Love this post, and the linked article. I don’t know you in person, but you seem rather irresistible! Thanks for sharing with Vis Monday, xo


  6. Did I miss it? Is there a link to the article? I want to read!


  7. I can only hope to be irresistible. Your friend gave you the ultimate compliment! By your writing, I think they are spot on.

    Pumps and Push-Ups

    • Based on what I have read on your blog, I bet you’re right in the realm of irresistible, too, Brooke! Thank you so much for your lovely compliment!


  8. I want to steal that blue shirt.

    Also, I love seeing the evolution of your posts. You take an outfit to give us something to look at and admire and then trick us into learning something and striving to be better people. Sneaky, sneaky..

    • Haha, Jane! That’s me, for sure, sneaky, sneaky! I am definitely still working on the direction I want to take with this little blog of mine! And maybe I will let you borrow my blue shirt, but you cannot steal it!


  9. I am NOT that person! My boyfriend is and sometimes I can be a bit jalouse about the way he thinks. I see the bad in people and he the good. I am a taker, he a giver! Its very nice of your friend to send you that, and great to hear that they think about you like that!

    • Thank you, Nancy! I really do have an amazing network of friends! And how wonderful that you have an boyfriend like this. You are both lucky to have each other!


  10. Love how you rock the cobalt top!

    The 2nd installment of my festival style collaboration with UK brand BOOHOO is now live at the blog – come check it out and let me know what you think!

    Happy Tuesday!


  11. It is quite thought provoking Shelbee…and what an honor that your friends think of you this way!
    Being a good friend and having the same makes life so much more wonderful!
    Thanks for the reality check—because dressing well is a form of self respect (in my book), but when push comes to shove, clothing still is only things!
    Love your “things” though!! πŸ™‚

    • Thanks so much, Jodie! It really did sent me into some serious self-examination. I want to be recognized for being a good, kind, moral person…but the compliment I received was beyond that and I just hope I can live up to that standard!


  12. I can see how a list like these might make you feel pressured- but your friends already see you this way, which means you just keep doing YOU, lady. πŸ™‚

    Love the bright blue here!

    Le Stylo Rouge

    • That is the perfect comment, Ashley! You are so right. I need to ease up on myself and just be me, for sure. Thank you so much for that perspective!


  13. I’m digging that asymmetrical tank. XO

  14. Love your blue top! That color looks great on you! love your style!

  15. Great outfit and great post – I saw a link to those 11 thingys so I’ll go ahead and read it too. I enjoy reading your blog. It’s obvious that you put a lot of thought and time into rafting what you’re going to say. Have a fabulous day. πŸ™‚

  16. Now this list intrigues me and I need to check it out. What a nice thing for your friend to do and think of you as so. I love this outfit (cobalt blue is my favorite).

    Thank you for linking up to “Bloggers Who Have Inspired Me”
    Rachel xo

  17. There’s nothing wrong with some tough love or being honest. I am also that friend and I think that’s why they love us πŸ™‚ (or so I think lol)
    This shade of blue looks great one you!!


  18. Love your outfit, and LOVE that you’re “irresistible”! Great thoughts to ponder… going to have to work on a few of these things myself! So glad you shared with us at #FridayFrivolity — pinning and tweeting! πŸ™‚