A few weeks ago, my friend Aimee sent me a link to the article 11 Secrets of Irresistible People with the message, “This reminds me of you…” So, of course, I was intrigued and wondering what in the world these 11 secrets were, I clicked the link and read on…
As I read the qualities that supposedly make people irresistible, I was thinking, “Wow! Is this really how my friends perceive me?” Things like an irresistible person does not seek validation because their self-worth comes from within; they treat everyone with respect; and they are authentic and have integrity. I was flattered, honored, and shocked. I also suddenly felt a sense of pressure. Pressure to actually be all of these things. If this is the role where my friends place me…”the life of the party” and the one they turn to “for help, advice, and companionship”…well, then I have a pretty high standard to live up to.
As I read through these 11 qualities, I began evaluating myself, my character, and asking myself, “Do I really focus on people more than anything else?” I have a selfish streak, for sure. “Do I really have all that much integrity?” I can certainly gossip with the best of them. “Do I really follow the Platinum Rule, treating others as they want to be treated?” Sometimes, I can be an in-your-face, confront-you-with-what-you-don’t-want-address, call-you-out-on-your-bullshit, tough-love kind of friend. Most people don’t like that. Or do they?
As I delved deeper into self-examination, there were definitely a few of these 11 qualities where I could agree. I definitely smile…a lot. Even in the worst of moods, as I soon as I am dealing with the outside world, I feel that smiling comes naturally to me. And I have learned over the years that people really do respond in a much more positive way to a smiling person. And I really do like people as a general matter of fact, so I smile.
I also do make an effort to look my best every day. I take the time to put myself together and be presentable. I do like the world to perceive me as a person who cares enough about myself to take some care and some pride in my appearance. Is this vain? Or is it just healthy? (I wrote an entire post about this topic which you can read here.)
And I do approach life and its obstacles with the mindset that all things are temporary…the ideas that this, too, shall pass, and whatever will be, will be are consistent themes that have appeared over and over again throughout the course of my life. I suppose I find these beliefs necessary for survival and healthy living. Dwelling on the rot in this world really can do no good.
By the end of reading this article, I really was absorbed in a serious session of self-exploration. And then I wondered, irresistible or not, maybe that’s what really makes me special. That I can be presented with an extraordinary compliment such as this and I need to figure out why. And in the end, I will do my best to rise to that challenge.
So I ask you this: Are you irresistible?
Feeling introspective on the edge,
Tunic: Cato Fashions (I am unable to find a link to this exact tunic, but they have other really fun tops in this same cobalt blue here, here, and here.)
Pants: Cato Fashions (from last year). Other black and white printed pants here and here.
Shoes: Payless (from last year). Similar here, here, and here.
Necklace: 35″ Blue Tassel Necklace from Target.
Earrings: Fort Drum Exchange.
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