Fashion Rainbow Art Show & Link Up On the Edge #25

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I do not have much of a post for you today because I have been frantically running around trying to get myself packed and ready to head to Los Angeles/Santa Monica for Anne M. Bray’s (SpyGirl) Fashion Rainbow Art Show at TAG Gallery! I am super excited to meet Anne in person! If you are in the area this weekend and looking for something to do, all of the details are in the invitation above.

And Rena of Fine Whatever has so graciously offered to pick me and Amy up from the airport when we arrive! So, I get to meet Rena in person, too!

I am looking forward to a fun weekend filled with all sorts of fabulous things! Follow along on social media if you wish!

I will be back to blogging next week. But for now, enjoy the link up!

Your favorite from last week was Susan of 50 Under 20. Won’t you all stop by and wish her a Happy Half-Year Blogging Anniversary! You can read about her blogging journey in her post A Milestone.

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Traveling from one edge of the country over to the other edge,

Shelbee

Linking up with These Fabulous Link Ups Where I Link Up

My Adore Me Wish List & #SpreadTheKindness Link Up #2

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With the holidays here, I am seeing lots of wish list posts from so many bloggers and they seem so fun to put together. But I have never done one before. So when my friends at Adore Me reached out and asked if I would be willing to put together a wish list of Adore Me products, I was very happy to oblige!

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*This is not a sponsored post. I am receiveing no compensation or gifted items for publishing this post. All opinions expressed herein are my own. I have been a loyal Adore Me customer for about a year and I absolutely love their products. So for the holiday season, I wanted to share with you, my readers, the things I love. I also saw this as another opportunity to #SpreadTheKindness.

If you are not familiar with Adore Me, it is a subscription lingerie service that offers a variety of bra and panty sets, corsets, sleepwear, loungewear, and activewear. If you join as a VIP member, you will be charged a monthly subscription fee of $39.95 which you can use toward any purchase from the store. The really nice thing, however, is that you will receive a reminder email at the beginning of every month asking if you would like to opt out of the monthly fee…which you are free to do every single month if you choose. In fact, this is what I usually do. If you forget to opt out, the funds will remain as a credit in your account until you decide to spend them. Also, as a VIP member, once you have purchased 5 sets, you earn a free set with a value of $39.95. I just used my free set credit to purcahse the Lauren Plus Cami and Pant Set and am anxiously awaiting its arrival! As a VIP member, you also are entitled to special sale events such as BOGO and other offers that pop up throughout the year.

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Once you become a member, you also will receive your own personal referral link. If you refer friends and they become members, you will receive a $15 credit when they make their first purchase. My husband has is own account so he can order me gifts. He sent me his referral code to set up my own account and now we both have accounts.

The Story of Adore Me from Helen Mears, Head of Design (former head of design at Victoria’s Secret)

“As a designer, my goal is always to create lingerie that makes women feel sexy without sacrificing comfort. Great lingerie should almost feel like an extension of yourself — it should suit your personality and give you that extra boost of confidence.

Our customer is truly a thrill to design for! She’s fashion-forward and has a bit of an edge to her. She’s active, dynamic, and expects lingerie that looks just as good worn alone as it does under her LBD, power suit or yoga pants. She makes my job a lot of fun!” (Copied directly from Adore Me).

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If Adore Me is a service you may be interested in, definitely check it out! I would love you to use one of my referral codes if you do decide to join. I will get my $15 credit to purchase more adorable and sexy intimate wear!

My husband’s code: He will get the $15 credit to buy me gifts.

My code: I will receive the $15 credit to buy myself things.

My Adore Me Wish Lists:

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1. Aviana Plus in Blue
2. Jalen Plus in Seashell Pink
3. Querida in Black
4. Valentina Plus in Black
5. Adora Plus in Black

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1. Alina Plus in Jet Black
2. Marisole Plus in Green Satin
3. Jackleen Contour Plus in Deep Teal
4. Whitley Unlined Plus in Pine Grove/Bottle Green
5. Dalis Unlined Plus in Nude

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1. Cassiopeia Plus in Purple
2. Aminta Plus in Cream/Black
3. Karly in Mint Green
4. Ulani Plus in Cerise and Pink Foulard Print
5. Laken Plus in Gray
6. Yoko Plus in Magnet Gray Heather
7. Rene Plus in Cobalt and Bow/Stitch Print

My recent Adore Me Purchases:

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1. Lauren Plus in Black
2. Brently Plus in Fairisle Snowflake Print

And now here are the 3 most clicked links from last week’s #SpreadTheKindness Link Up. Thanks so much to all of you who joined. Please help spread the word about the importance of my #SpreadTheKindness Movement wherever you can!

Linda of A Labour of Life shared an adorable outfit she wore on a weekend outdoorsy trip In PINK with New Chic. Bright pink is an amazing color on Linda! And how happy is her always smiling face! Linda is a great example of #SpreadingTheKindness just by being her cheerful self!  Thank you, Linda, for being your fabulous, fun, and friendly self!

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Ana of Mrs. American Made shared a lovely floral look with a whole lot of gratitude in her post Gratitude Week in the Spirit of Thanskgiving. I love Ana’s easy yet sophisticated look, but I love her family photo even more! Thank you, Ana, for sharing gratitude and #SpreadingTheKindness!

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Donna of yadadarcyyada shared a post from last year that is so appropriate now and perfect for #SpreadingTheKindness. I am calling this post a must-read for everyone: Compassion Never Goes Out of Style! It is a great reminder for all of us! Thank you, Donna, for this post. Thank you so very much!

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#SpreadingTheKindness from the edge,

Shelbee

Linking up with These Fabulous Link Ups Where I Link Up

Happy Thanksgiving & Link Up On the Edge #24

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I would like to wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving!

Today and everyday, I am thankful for so many things.

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For those of you do not already know, I had minor surgery on Tuesday. Just a uterine ablation and tubal ligation. Today, I am feeling just a bit sore and hope to get lots of rest over the weekend so I am ready to jump on an airplane next Thursday and jet off to Californina to see the sketch of myself (and 51 other gorgeous bloggers) in Anne M. Bray’s Fashion Rainbow at TAG Gallery. Thank you, Anne, for the fabulous artwork and for giving me a little push to travel! I haven’t in so long.

If you are in the Santa Monica area next weekend, do stop by and check out the show!

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I also want to thank my husband for pampering me during my recovery period! And my friend, Lori, for keeping my kids and for bringing us dinner last night (all while her husband is deployed and she’s busy being a “single” mom of 2 young boys at the holidays). A big thank you to Sheryl and Adam who are busy in my kitchen preparing an amazing meal so that my family has a “proper” Thanksgiving dinner today! I also want to thank my friends, Amy and Bethany, for continuously checking in on me and making sure there is nothing else I need during my recovery. I love you all and wish you a blessed and very special Thanksgiving! (Bethany, hang in there, I know this is a tough one for you…but you’ve got this!)

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And to all of my family and friends and blogging buddies: I hope you have a wonderful, peaceful, relaxing, and blessed Thanksgiving.

A poem by me, for you:

May your turkey be tasty
And your stuffing just right.
May desserts be aplenty
On Thanksgiving night.

May your house overflow
With your dearest of kin.
And for the sake of Thanksgiving,
May your football team win!

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Outfit details:

*This is not a sponsored post.

Poncho: Shelbee’s Shoppe (I only have one available in olive green, $48).
Tunic: Old Navy.
Jeans: Target.
Shoes: Burlington Coat Factory.

And now here are your two favorites from last week:

Sheela of Sheela Writes shared a fabulous outfit and even more fabulous post,  Unleash Your Fearlessness.

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And Susan of Over 50 Under 20 shows an adorable look in floral printed dress in her post Gray Day.

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Filled with gratitude and thanks on the edge,

Shelbee

Linking up with These Fabulous Link Ups Where I Link Up

What To Wear To A Fall Wedding: 6 Outfits by 6 Gorgeous Gals

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A few weeks ago, Ada of Elegance and Mommyhood invited me to join her and a few other bloggers for a collaboration post on fall wedding outfits. I always feel so honored when asked to participate in these types of collaborations. For that, I want to thank Ada from the bottom of my heart. And as usual, I am more than happy to join you.

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I did not know who the other bloggers were participating in this collaboration until I sat down to draft this post. To my gleeful surprise, I found Ada had put together quite the line up of amazing gals for this post! So please do make sure and pay them all a visit and see what they have styled for a fall wedding.

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The amazing Ada of Elegance and Mommyhood from Michigan, USA.

The captivating Kristin of Countdown to Friday from Germany.

The radiant Roxanne of Glass of Glam from Washington, D.C., USA.

The beautiful Nina of A World of Dresses from Spain.

The lovely Linda of A Labour of Life from Ontario, Canada.

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I styled this outfit a few weeks ago, right around the time Ada asked me to participate. It seems funny to me sharing these photos of a sleeveless dress and bare legs as I sit in my living room buried under some major lake effect snow! But that is North Country living for you…at its best.

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It was 72 degrees here on Saturday and late Sunday night the temperature dove down and the snow started coming in off of Lake Ontario. Don’t get me wrong…I love snow. I think it is so beautiful. But where I live the snow is usually accompanied by lots of wind which makes wearing dresses quite the challenge (unless, of course, you don’t mind exposing your underthings)! Also, once the snow arrives in these parts, it is usually here to stay until sometime around mid-May. So while I do love the snow, I would love it much better without the endless stream of black sludge that gets tracked through my house for 6 plus months and ruins all of my cute shoes! Time to bring out my old tried and true L.L. Bean sludge-resistant boots!

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So for a moment at least, I am going to enjoy the beautiful flowers on my purple dress! They will be the only flowers seen around for a while. I picked up this dress last year on clearance from Kohl’s. I had my eye on it for quite some time and waited for it go on clearance. I also had some Kohl’s cash at the time of purchase, so I actually paid nothing for it the day I bought it.

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The wrap front of the dress is a tad bit too low cut for my taste so I closed it up with a fuzzy burgundy pin that I have had tucked away in my jewelry box for years. I usually do add this pin to this thrifted velvet blazer in the same color. I have had this burgundy velvet blazer for about 8 years.   I picked it up at a thrift shop in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania, for around $7. It makes an appearance a few times every year as it is one of my favorites. And this year, with velvet being so trendy, I am so glad that I have kept this beauty for as long as I have!

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I accessorized with some classic pearl jewelry, burgundy pumps with a bow detail, and a metallic clutch. Most of my pearl jewelry is decades old as are these shoes. After I had children, I disposed of most of my dressy heels because I really had no use for them. But I love these so much that I just could never part with them. And I sure am glad for that because the color is perfectly on trend right now, they are super comfortable, and they match most of my dressier outfits!

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While I do not have any fall weddings (or any weddings at all, for that matter) in the foreseeable future, this is one outfit I would definitely wear if I receive an invitation! And that is good news for me because I hate shopping under pressure!

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Outfit details:

*This is not a sponsored post. All items are my own and all opinions expressed are exclusively mine.

Dress: Chaps for Kohl’s. (No longer available. Other floral dresses by Chaps here, here, here, here, and here).
Blazer: Thrifted with Dress Barn label. (Other velvet options here and here).
Shoes: Madden Girl (Very old. Similar in color here. Other options here and here).
Clutch: Lulu Townsend Glitter Mesh Clutch from DSW.
Bracelet: Claire’s (No longer available).
Necklaces: I have owned these for so long, I have no idea where they were purchased.
Pin: Same as the necklaces.

If you have a wedding coming up and need outfit inspiration, I do hope you are able to find some ideas here! Please make sure to check out the other gorgeous gals who have styled wedding outfits for you! Which do you like best? Which would you wear?

All dressed up on the edge,

Shelbee

Linking up with These Fabulous Link Ups Where I Link Up

#SpreadTheKindness Movement (and Link Up) & My New Lularoe Carly Dress

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Now more than ever, I believe it is of the utmost importance to be spreading kindness and love wherever we go. The holidays have arrived and while many people feel moved by the spirit of the holidays, there are also so many who feel depressed, stressed, tired, or just angry for various reasons at this time of year. Add that to a time of social tension in our country that has arrived in the wake of a controversial Presidential election and emotions are running high.  Many people are edgy to say the least.  We are watching people every day expressing their emotions by acting out in cruel and frightening ways.

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We are seeing it everywhere in the media as well as in our personal lives. And I have taken a stand against it. I will not be broken by the hatred. I have made it my mission to conquer hatred with love and kindness. And I will rise up to the challenge. But it will make my mission that much easier if all of you, my wonderful, amazing, supportive, loving, and kind readers will join me in this mission! All you have to do, really, is continue to be your kind, amazing, loving, wonderful selves and keep spreading kindness wherever you go.

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As a blogger, there are so many ways you can do this. You can leave lovely comments on other blogs. You can link your blog when other bloggers host link ups or blog hops. You can publish content that overloads the internet with goodness and gratitude and love and kindness. You can share other blog posts on your social media sites. Use the hashtags #SpreadTheKindness or #SpreadingTheKindness whenever you are sharing because sharing alone is spreading kindness! My mission is to literally overflow social media with all things kind and loving. And maybe, just maybe, we can wipe out some of the hatred that is trying to win.

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As a non-blogging person, there are even more ways to spread the kindness. Compliment a stranger. Hold a door for the person behind you. Exercise patience in holiday traffic. Smile. Just smile. Just be loving and kind wherever you go. It really is contagious. But we need to be vigilant in this task if we want to succeed.

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I have been taking steps daily toward my goal of Spreading the Kindness. This post is another effort on my part to do just that. Last weekend, I set up Shelbee’s Shoppe at a vendor and craft fair. I didn’t do so well that day. I don’t know if was just not the right people for my merchandise (I think they were looking more for handmade crafts), if it was the crazy cold and windy weather (my table was outside), or if it was just that no one had heard of me before (it was my first vendor event) and I was set up next to a lovely girl named Adrien Pacella who happened to be a Lularoe consultant (and we all know they have an established name). But whatever the reason, I didn’t do well. But I did establish a great relationship with the Lularoe consultant next to me! We were helping each other with all sorts of things throughout the day (mostly rescuing merchandise that was blowing away)!

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Anyway, to make a long story short, I had not yet delved into the world of Lularoe until I spotted this red floral Carly dress hanging there amidst Adrien’s inventory. It was my size, so I tried it on right over my clothes and fell instantly in love! After a quick exchange of cash, the dress was mine! And now I want to share it with you all. And also I wanted to shamelessly plug Adrien!

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So, if you don’t already have a Lularoe consultant or are looking for different pieces, stop by and see what Adrien Pacella has to offer! And if you get nothing, I guarantee she will at least make you smile with the kind-hearted and warm spirit that exudes right out of her! She is a stellar example of how sometimes just being who you are injects kindness into the world! Thank you, Adrien, for just being you!

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*This is not a sponsored post. Adrien did not gift me this dress. I purchased it with my own money. All opinions in this post are my own and only influenced by how great the Carly dress really is and how inherently lovely Adrien is. #SpreadTheKindness

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Outfit details:
Dress: Carly by Lularoe from Consultant Adrien Pacella.
Cardigan: Kohl’s (from a few years ago).
Boots: Cato Fashions Buckled Contrast Band Tall Boots in Barnwood (currently on sale for $11.99! Also available in Pitch Navy which are on sale for $9.99!)
Necklace: Cato Fashions (no longer available but other tassel necklaces available here and here).

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What are you doing to keep kindness alive? Are you willing to join my movement simply by using my hashtag #SpreadTheKindness? Or how about I add a random link up just for sharing and spreading kindness?

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Spreading the kindness from the edge,

Shelbee

Linking up with These Fabulous Link Ups Where I Link Up

How to Wear Over the Knee Socks Over 40: Take 2 & Link Up On the Edge #23

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A few weeks ago, I received a reader request for another outfit featuring over the knee socks. The request actually came from a man who would like his over-40 wife to wear OTK socks more often and feel comfortable in them. You can read the original OTK sock post here.

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I am a huge fan of OTK socks with dresses or skirts. It has been one of my favorite trends since I was in high school. I went through a period of time where I felt “too old” to wear this style. But I have since changed my mind and I wear whatever the heck I want!

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I also am loving this 70’s inspired sueded shift dress trend that is popular right now. And of course, blanket scarves are always a must for cool fall weather. What better way to combine all these trends into one outfit than with these fabulous autumn tones!

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Outfit details:

*This is not a sponsored post. All clothing items were purchased by me and all opinions expressed herein are my own.

Dress: Old Navy Sueded Shift Dress (currently on sale for $19.97).
Turtleneck: Kohl’s (from last year, similar here).
Blanket Scarf: Shelbee’s Shoppe.
Socks: Sock Dreams Super Stripes Longer (I bought these socks about 7 years ago. It does not look like they carry the same color combination of pumpkin and gray any more. But there are so many great patterns and colors available!)
Boots: TJ Maxx (from last year, but these wedge boots are available now).
Backpack: Target (No longer available, but similar options here and here).

I want to thank everyone who stops by every week and joins my link up! I really appreciate your loyalty and support. I love seeing what you are all wearing, sharing, and discussing each week. I also want to thank everyone for the kindness and love that you continue to share on your own blogs as well as in my comments. Now more than ever, we need to continue spreading love and kindness. #SpreadTheKindness

And now here are your two favorites from last week:

Jaymie of Shop Your Closet with Jaymie Ashcraft sported the most adorable graphic tee in her Denim on Denim post. This is such a perfect look for fall. Well done, Jaymie! Thanks for inspiring us.

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Susan of Over 50 Under 20 shared her Style Journey with us all as she brilliantly explains how she “passed through the “wear what everyone else is wearing” stage, the “too poor and too young to care” stage, the “comfortable mom” stage, the “Florida tacky” stage, and the “newly arrived in Georgia” stage.” Such a fun post! Thanks, Susan, for sharing your journey with us and keeping us inspired!

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Keeping it on the edge as always,

Shelbee

I link up with These Fabulous Link Ups.

A Ray of Sunshine in a Hate-Filled World

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If you are friends with me or follow me on Facebook, then you already know that I have been receiving some pretty nasty messages and comments in response to my post about the Presidential election. Toward the end of that post, I stated, “Also know that I guarantee that I will NOT respond to harsh and unkind words. So if you are looking for a debate or an argument, you will not be satisfied here.” Being a person who reserves my right to change my mind, I have done just that. I have changed my mind. And at the end of this post, you will find my response to the following harsh and unkind words:

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From patsrdsx@mac.com in an email to me titled You’ve have a nerve“:

“Shame on you for not voting. I always thought you were are a fat ugly idiot, I mean look at yourself compared to other fashion bloggers. Now I can add to fat, ugly, idiot, stupid and irresponsible. You ought to concentrate on your real life instead of your fantasy blogging life. Your new president wouldn’t even consider you as a “1” on his scale in rating women.”

And a second email sent 8 minutes later from patsrdsx@mac.com:

“Can hardly believe you put you thoughts on the internet, let alone your picture as a “fashion blogger”? Get a full length mirror and look closely.”

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Submitted to comments on my post from Ann at gr8trip@yahoo.com:

“You are a fat slob and an imbicile.”

Also from Ann at gr8trip@yahoo.com in a second comment:

“Fat dumb ass.”

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And another from Ann at gr8trip@yahoo.com:

“If you are so brave, publish ALL the comments you are receiving. You are an irresponsible citizen. How would your new president classify you as a “2”, maybe if you re lucky.”

Well, Ann, I am so brave. And I will publish your comments as I have published all the others. But I will do one better and share your comments in a post dedicated entirely to you and patsrdsx@mac.com.

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Clearly, you are angry. And that is fine. Be angry. Use me as your scapegoat if you feel the need. You see, I have spent years building my spirit and I am quite resilient to harsh words. Also understand that I am quite empathic and I will meet you where you stand in your anger. But I will not respond with anger or hatred. We have enough of that in our world. I will meet you only with kindness and love…right where you stand.  Give your anger its moment. And hopefully one day you will be able to find kindness and love. For me, I have found those things. I live those things. And because of that, my spirit cannot be broken.

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Before closing this post, I do want to acknowledge another harsh comment that I received in response to my election post. This comment came from Michelle Cahill. I do not want to criticize it, however, for its harshness. I want to praise Michelle for taking the time to draft an intelligent well-thought out, passionate response. While I could easily have ignored her comment, become enraged by it, or simply disagreed with it, I chose instead to respect it because it did not come from hatred, it came from her own passionate beliefs on the subject. So Michelle Cahill, while we do not agree, I want to publicly thank you for taking the time to intelligently voice your thoughts and opinions. I have published it in my comment section with my response.

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*I also owe a public apology to Apple because I jumped the gun on a quick IP search and declared that a mac.com email address was an Apple employee. If anyone from the Apple customer service department happens to read this, please disregard my irate complaint that was messaged earlier today. After further research, I realized the error in my conclusion. And that is a lesson to me about what happens when you act too quickly from a place of heated emotion. Pause first. Think for a moment. Because once you have reacted, it cannot be undone. I own my mistake and I apologize for acting too quickly.

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Thanks to everyone who has supported me on this. And a big thanks to Kathryn for creating #teamshelbee! I love it.

Keep spreading the kindness my friends.

Keeping my spirit in tact on the edge,

Shelbee

Linking up with These Fabulous Link Ups Where I Link Up

My Religion: The Greatest Of These Is Love

I began a recent post My Response to the Presidential Election with the words “I am not a political person. Nor am I a religious person. But I am a passionate person.” The post then went on to discuss my political (or lack thereof) views. And the part about not being religious was just left hanging out there undiscussed.

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Not wanting to just leave it hanging there undiscussed, I figured now was as a good a time as any to share my religious views with you. They are quite similar to my political views. My feelings are this: if what you believe gets you through the day and the night and all the craziness in between, if what you believe helps you sleep soundly, makes you feel safe, gives you hope when you have lost it, soothes you when need it, heals you when you are broken, lifts you up when you have fallen, then what you believe is 100% absolutely the right thing for you to believe. And I support it…as long as it does not bring harm to others.

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I was raised in a Christian household. I was forced to attend church my entire childhood. My beliefs waxed and waned throughout those years. I was in it wholeheartedly. Then I was out of it. My religious beliefs have cycled and swirled and changed direction and evolved throughout my 42 years of life. In college, I majored in Philosophy with a minor in Religious Studies which had great impact on where I stand today on these issues. I have experienced darkness and I have seen the light. I have lost loved ones and I have come face to face with really bad people. I have changed my mind and I have changed my attitude, probably a million times, and ultimately I have landed right here.

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And right here, where I stand on religion, is a place where kindness must rule, where faith in something bigger than us must exist, where love must prevail. I don’t care what religious label you give to yourself or what name you call your higher power. If that power teaches that goodness, kindness, love and caring toward yourself and others is the most important thing, then it is a good belief system.

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I don’t necessarily like the labels for myself. But I don’t judge those who feel secure in the labels. I don’t judge those who feel that their religion has failed them. I really just don’t judge at all. To each his own. For those who have lost their way, I do hope you are able to find it again…somehow, some way, no matter what you call it. I hope you find your way to self-love, to kindness, and to faith in something.

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I do not wish to offend anyone of any religious belief system. But since I grew up in an environment where I have read and studied the Bible, I am going to leave you with this final thought. The most important lesson in that book, the one lesson that I think transcends all lessons, the one lesson that permeates throughout most religions, the one that I believe if you take nothing else from it you should carry this one with you…regardless of what your religion is named…

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“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.  For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.  When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.  For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

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And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”  (1 Corinthians 13:4-13)

It seems now, more than ever, we need to have faith.  Faith in ourselves and faith in others.  We need to hold onto hope.  Hope that goodness and kindness will prevail.  And we need to practice love.  Always practice love.  In everything we do and say.

Sharing faith, hope, and love from the edge,

Shelbee

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Outfit details:

*This is not a sponsored post. All clothing items, beliefs, thoughts, and opinions are exclusively my own.

Dress: Shelbee’s Shoppe ($34. Available in 6 colors. If interested in seeing other colors or purchasing, please message or comment as I am still struggling with getting my online shop set up.)
Sweater: Fort Drum Exchange.
Shoes: Payless (No longer available but similar here).

Spreading Kindness & Link Up On the Edge #22

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“Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.” -Franklin D. Roosevelt

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“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.” -Albert Schweitzer

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“Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” -Barbara de Angelis

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“Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.” -Scott Adams

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“The level of our success is limited only by our imagination and no act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted.” -Aesop

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“You can accomplish by kindness what you cannot by force.” -Publilius Syrus

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“Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.” -Theodore Isaac Rubin

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“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees.” -Amelia Earhart

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“Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly, leave the rest to God.”Ronald Reagan

I want to thank everyone who stops by every week and joins my link up! I really appreciate your loyalty and support. I love seeing what you are all wearing, sharing, and discussing each week. And now here are your two favorites from last week:

Amy of Stylin’ Granny Mama created an amazing look by combining Halloween colors that could be worn on any day of the year in her post Color Crash Course-Spooky Color Combo (without being scary).

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Kathrine of Kathrine Eldridge: Wardrobe Stylist shows some fabulous tassel accessories and a gorgeous outfit in her post Tasseled Up with Lauren Farrell NY.

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Thank you ladies for keeping us inspired!


“Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” -Henry James

Spreading kindness from the edge,

Shelbee

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Outfit details:

*This is not a sponsored post. All items are my own purchased by me.

Dress: Merona Green Tencel Shirt Dress for Target.
Cardigan: Old Navy (From last year. Similar here).
Jeans: Gap Factory 1969 Legging Jeans.
Shoes: Burlington Coat Factory (I cannot find a link to these shoes).

My Response to the Presidential Election

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I am not a political person. Nor am I a religious person. But I am a passionate person. And I am an intelligent person. I am an optimist. I have opinions. And I sometimes pass judgments. For the most part, I will keep my judgments to myself. And I generally will only share my opinions when asked. I mind my own business and I stay out of the business of others. I do not like confrontation. But if pushed too far, I will engage. I am soft when the situation calls for it. I am hard when I need to be. I am compassionate, empathetic, kind, and understanding. I am accepting, caring, generous, and loving. But I do get irritated sometimes. Mostly, I just ride it out, complaining only to my family and closest friends. But sometimes, I need to speak out.

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Very rarely will I publicly share my thoughts about anything related to politics and religion. In the realm of politics, I am self-admittedly uneducated. In the realm of religion, I am self-admittedly quite educated. But these two topics tend to elicit so much controversy that I generally maintain my own thoughts, beliefs, and feelings inside the confines of my own brain. However, the recent Presidential election is one of those times that I am feeling the need to speak out.

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First, I am a proud boycotter of voting. I don’t vote. I voted once in my life…the year I turned 18 and could register to vote. For me, it did not live up to all the hype. I voted for Bill Clinton for President. And I have to honestly say that I felt no pride nor did I feel regret for the vote that I cast in that election. I did not feel that my vote counted nor did I feel that it didn’t count. I was absolutely indifferent about the entire process. And I whole-heartedly stand by my indifference. I cannot be swayed. My friends and family have tried. They have never succeeded.  And I have never since voted in any election.

Over the years, I have learned that I am simply not interested in politics. I am not interested in engaging in the shit storm of name calling, digging up past indiscretions, and dragging people and their family members through the mud. I am not interested in the public humiliation of others. I do not and will not support unkindness.

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While I do not follow politics much at all, it is difficult to escape the onslaught of political rantings on social media. So while I don’t know much, I have learned that there has not been a candidate for any political office that has earned my vote in the past 24 years. As a result, I will not be forced to choose the lesser of a multitude of evils. I simply will not choose evil at all. And I completely disagree with people who preach that voting is my duty as an American citizen. Voting is NOT my duty. It is my right. But I also maintain the right to choose NOT to vote. And this decision sits well with me. I sleep at night with a completely clear conscience. And that is how it should be.

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I also will not adhere to the statement that if I exercise my right to choose NOT to vote that I have given up my right to complain about our political system. Not voting does not exempt me from my freedom of speech, the freedom to speak my mind. That is the beauty of our great nation. I choose not to vote. Our political system is clearly flawed. But there are also so many great things about it, too. For example, I can publish my opinion on this topic without fear of punishment. I can say what I want, write what it want, and I am protected by my rights as an American citizen…and as an American citizen who chooses to not even vote.

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Second, I have read a lot of ranting from parents who express fear for their children’s future. Regardless of whom holds the title of President of the United States, I am still going to raise my children the best way I know how. I am going to teach them kindness. I am going to show them love and fairness. I am going to discipline them. I am going to protect them from the ills of this world the best that I can. But I also am going to make sure they know that we live in a world that is not fair, that is not always kind, that is not always accepting. This is the world we live in. It is the world in which our children are growing up in. It is a world they will thrive in if we let them, if we instill our best qualities in them.

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My children are 3 and 5 years old. Do I fear for them?  Of course I do.  I fear for them because growing up is hard and it is scary and none of us know what the future holds.  My 5 year old knows who Donald Trump and Hilary Clinton are. That is all he knows about politics.  He is completely unaware of the horrible things these people have said and done. He is unaware because that is what I have chosen for him. We don’t talk about it. We don’t watch it on television. He is FIVE. He does not need to be informed of this yet. I am not ready to expose to him all of the evils in our world. When he is ready and when I am ready, I will teach him to form his own opinions on these matters. But until then, I am just going to let him be five.

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In the meantime, I do want to point out that progress is being made in this nation, in this world. Progress is always be made. And generations upon generations of people before us have viewed progress as bad. I remember my grandparents claiming that our society was going to hell in a hand basket just as their grandparents probably complained that society was going to hell in a hand basket. I have used those words myself. Yet here we are. In a hand basket on the way to hell?  Perhaps. But still progressing and moving forward.

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Donald Trump in no way has the power to revert us backwards 50 or 100 years as I have heard some claim. We have come too far already. And we the people, divided yet collectively, have voted him into office as our President. So I propose this as a first step…why not just give him a chance. Maybe he will surprise us. Maybe not. Maybe he will be a huge disappointment. But then, rather than sit around and complain about it, maybe taking action to change it would be better. For me, for now, I am going to just sit at my keyboard, hope for the best, and watch it all unfold. I am also going to continue spreading joy, love, and kindness where I can…outside of the political world. Because that is my happy place. And that is where I choose to stay.

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If you have only harsh words in response to this post, please either keep them to yourself, publish them in your own space, or share them in my comment section if you feel the need. But know that it is my comment section and I reserve the right to not publish them.  I also reserve the right to delete them. Also know that I guarantee that I will NOT respond to harsh and unkind words. So if you are looking for a debate or an argument, you will not be satisfied here.

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Good luck to us all. May we all find our happy places…whether it is fighting changes, making changes, accepting changes, or ignoring changes. Go forth and prosper.

Speaking my mind on the edge,

Shelbee

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